Friday, March 13, 2015


People need other people to feel things
for them, she said.  It gets lonely
to feel things all by yourself.

~ Lauren Oliver, Liesel & Po

Before text messages, email and voicemail,
Skype and FaceTime, there were

phone calls
US/Nat'l Mail
Pony Express

and other kinds of messengers, dating as far
back in time as one human being first longing
to connect with another.

That's a long, long way back.  
Imagine someone on foot running miles to 
impart an important message, or later, horse-
men dashing out into dark nights with urgent
news that took hours or days to deliver.

The kind of news we can now share in
mere seconds.

From the beginning, it was all about
connection, and although the delivery 
method has changed, that desire to share
news, opinions and emotions with others
has not.

Witness the blossoming of Facebook, Twitter,
blogs, YouTube, Tumblr and a plethora
of other social media.

All of these outlets feed an absolute
hunger to connect, so as not to
feel things all by yourself.

I have a reader named Dawn Y who leaves me
very thoughtful comments, but when I select
the reply button in Gmail, Google has Dawn's
email address listed as no-reply, which
means that she hasn't registered her email
with them {or enabled it to be shared}.

It's like receiving a wonderful card through
the post office with no return address.  That
inability to connect always leaves me
frustrated, and it also highlights how easy
it is to take all of our modern methods of
communication and connection for granted.

Since my father in law passed away last
month, my mother in law is starting to adjust
to a life without her sweetheart of 67 years.

Her need for connection is palpable.

It's going to take a lot more than simply
registering an email address for her to begin
feeling plugged into life again.

We never outgrow that yearning to join our
thoughts with others, do we?

Like twinkling stars flung out on a sea of
black velvet sky, we seemingly float on our
own, but there is a yearning to connect to
one another and to form something beautiful
as well as meaningful out of life, the way
that astronomers use lines to construct
amazing constellations.

Humans, like so many creatures, aren't meant
to navigate life by themselves.

Some say that social media has actually
created a culture of loneliness, as more
people interact with others from behind a
screen, instead of face to face.

But maybe they just aren't using it right.

New technologies have enabled us to enhance
our connection, not replace it.  There are
now so many ways to easily unite hearts and
minds, and our descendants are certain to
enjoy other ways of communication we cannot
begin to fathom today.

Because even in the future, human beings
will continue to crave connection.

{Dawn Y, if you are reading this,
please send me your email address : )}

What's your favorite way to 
stay connected?


All photos: Privet & Holly,
taken in lovely London.