Thursday, March 6, 2014

Deceleration

If I could save time in a bottle,
the first thing that I'd like to do,
is to save every day 'til eternity
passes away, just to spend them
with you.....

~ Jim Croce




I was blessed to spend last
weekend with my daughter,
who goes to college in 
California.

She turned 19 on Monday, 
so the whole weekend had a
festive air, from driving
around doing errands in our
rental car, to seeing a movie
and having dinner by the beach.




One of the conversations that
we had while in the car--always
one of our best places to talk--
revolved around time, and
how much faster we perceive it
passing as we grow older.

I'd always assumed that time
seemed to pick up speed as
we age because days, months
and years become a smaller
percentage of our total life.




A year when you are two is
half of your life, at ten it is
one-tenth, and the fraction 
continues to get smaller as
we get older.

But, it turns out, there
is more to it than just
fractions.




Arriving home on Monday,
I picked up a weekend
newspaper to discover an
article on this very topic.

{I love serendipity.}

The author of the report
explained that since almost
everything in the first few
years of our lives is new and
unique to us, those experiences 
remain fixed in our memories.




But then the years unfold.

Our knowledge increases,
we tend to follow routines,
and we encounter fewer
and fewer new experiences.

Like many of you, I yearn
to stay in the present moment,
believing that a focus on the
here and now will slow down 
time and capture it in that bottle.




Instead, it appears that
learning or trying new things, 
such as activities, places
and foods, is crucial to
putting the brake pedal on
the speedometer of life.

Although I was only in
California with my daughter
from noon on Friday until
Sunday evening, it felt 
like much longer!




And, I can vividly remember
the little details of the trip--
what we did, where we went,
what we ate, etc.

But, I can barely tell you
that same information for
the week that led up to my
trip, without consulting my
planner.




Life truly slowed down
for me while I was away from
routines, in new surroundings
and discovering things outside
my normal flight path : )

Reflecting on this long
winter, the memories that 
stand out to me also involve
other days when I pushed
myself out of my comfort zone
or tried new activities, like
cross-country skiing on a cold
but brilliant sunny morning,
when staying in was pretty
inviting!




I'm definitely a homebody,
but those hours when I stick
to a routine blow past like
clock hands wound 
too tightly.

I know it's March.

2014 is already flying by.




But I am determined
to decelerate 
it a bit, by ramping up my 
new experiences, each week.

Daily would be even better,
but that might be a stretch.

Baby steps, right?




If I could make days last forever,
if words could make wishes come true,
I'd save every day like a treasure
and then, again, I would spend
them with you....



xo
Suzanne 


all pictures P&H





26 comments:

thejugglestruggle.net said...

I absolutely LOVE this! As someone whose days slip by amidst the mundane routines of what has become my life through a year of serious challenges, I am going to strive to mix things up a bit!

Ironically, I keep striving to come up with a schedule that works for me to have "control" (ha) over my days, but I may need to work on the exact opposite--at least if I want the "slippage" to stop.

Thanks for this food for thought--and so glad you had such a lovely, memorable weekend with your daughter!
xo-
~L

Grammy said...

I treasure all our days spent together. Enjoyed the peek into your weekend. See you soon!

patty said...

{i love serendipity, too!!}

such a perfect post as we arrive home from a trip out west... to your parts, perhaps?... and jump back on the treadmill of life...

so glad you got to visit with your daughter on her birthday-perfect gift for her and for mama, celebrating your giving-birth day.

and suzanne! { L O V E } your design!! xo

Lucy martin said...

I so relate to what you shared here..beautifully etched in longing while grounded in the present.
Hugs...

Palomasea said...

I love that picture of the two of you...glowing and beautiful...a happy belated Birthday to your sweet girl..is she loving life in Cali.?
Suzanne, dear friend, what a fascinatingly serendipitous post! ;)) (All photos are splendid)
I think about this very subject almost every day!
I have learned something very important today, and yes, this makes so much sense...aaahhh...the mystery of why "time flies" is solved!
May we infuse our days with new and wonderful experiences....
Happy March to you!
Thank you so much for visiting me, Suzanne!
The exhibit is here until May, I believe...
Perhaps we could meet for coffee some time, I would love to see you!
Hugs to you,
- Irina

Mona said...

Beautiful post...trying to decelerate myself...this was a good reminder..
Love, Mona

Charm Bracelet Diva {at Home} said...

I've pondered this phenomenon many times, then give up because I get depressed thinking about it! I remember that song well, it's so beautiful. And the first watch, well, that looks like one my mother had:) I have also found that I've started looking at life through my children's eyes as they each grow older. Probably not a good thing since it makes me feel pretty old sometimes. I agree completely that we all need to try new things and stay engaged in order to stay feeling young. Thanks for the reminder!
xoKathleen

Low Tide High Style said...

So glad you had such a wonderful visit with your daughter, and what a great interpretation of time and how we perceive it! This makes sense to me on so many levels...thanks for sharing!

xo Kat

michele said...

how wonderful that you two had the chance to make some beautiful memories. that science stuff totally rings true for me, suzanne, and what a great motivator to shake up the everyday! i think it's good for our brains--introducing some tension, throwing new variables into the mix, creates new growth opportunities.

love to you.

michele

Rambling Tart said...

Baby steps is right. :-) I'm so glad you had such a beautiful time with your daughter. You both look radiant. :-)

Lisa @ Shine Your Light said...

What a beautiful way to spend your weekend - with one of your loves, who was surely thrilled at your presence. E looks happy and I hope she is loving school! I need - am yearning for - some new experiences after this long cold winter. I'll take your advice and try to slow down time by spicing up life a bit. I'll have to think on that one!

Linda @ Itsy Bits And Pieces said...

This is such a wonderful post, Suzanne! It is so true...whenever I am doing something out of my routine time does slow down! Your time with E. looks so special...the photo of the two of you is beautiful. Your post truly inspires me to explore a little more.

Sylvia said...

A heart-warming and thought-provoking post, dear Suzanne! I can relate to what you're saying in your writing; I came to realize that if you want to be happier, if you want things to change, if you want to truly appreciate your experiences, you need to go out of your comfort zone because this is where "the magic" happens! I am so happy you had such a wonderful weekend with your beautiful daughter. Every moment spent with someone we love is special... and it lies in our power to slow down and enjoy life more. Thank you for reminding us about this in a such an elegant and eloquent way!

Sylvia said...

P.S. I love the new look of your blog! Clean and simple is always the best :)

Katherine said...

Looks like you had a wonderful time with your daughter. Time well spent x

Leslie said...

Suzanne, I'm so happy you had this wonderful time (in a bottle;) with your lovely daughter. Baby steps, living in the moment, trying new things.. it IS a process isn't it? When we dwell on things of the past and worry (something that I do more often now that I've lived 54 years~ I think I realize the fragility of life) it consumes us and doesn't allow us to move in a positive direction. Spending time with our kids keeps us young:):) xxleslie

Julie said...

Love this. So glad you had a wonderful time in CA with your girl. This is a good goal to keep in mind and I shall try to pursue this in 2014. thanks for the inspiration! BIG BIG Hugs to you girl. Oh just can't wait for this long Winter to be over. Truly the longest one of my whole life. :-) xoxoxo <3

colorformtexture.com said...

Suzanne, I just loved this post - especially the pics of you and your daughter. Ummm - ya'll look like sisters! And I love your blog's updated look. You seem to tap into what is important to your readers and bring those things out into the open to share and discuss and just feel.

Just a little something from Judy said...

I can totally relate to the words of this well written post. The picture of you and your daughter says it all. Love the relationship you two have. It is refreshing!

Laura Murphy said...

I agree completely.
Thank you again for your beautiful words and images.
You and your daughter look so happy together!

xo
L.

Bonnie said...

Hugs to you Suzanne. Your words flow like music for me. So beautiful and wise.

Lovely photos of you and your daughter. My heart is warmed to hear about your enjoyable visit with your daughter.

June said...

This is beautiful Suzanne and oh, so true. As I read, I was actually thinking of the memories I made with my own daughters this weekend. It is always hard for me to want to leave home and do something adventurous, but when I do, I treasure the time.
You write so beautifully that I get lost in your writing and always feel as though I have been taught a hidden truth. That, my beautiful friend is such a talent!
I know what I will be humming all day :)
much love...
...I loved every photo---but of course my favorites were of you and your beautiful girl!

Melissa said...

How much do I love, and totally feel in tune with this post Suzanne!
I nodded, sighed and felt more and more wistful as I read it!
You are so right!
That article was so right!

{And yes serendipity is wonderful!}.

I will be spending much time thinking about this as I go about my afternoon- trying to break from small routine behaviour, until I'm presented with a day equivalent to your morning on the slopes!

As always sweet friend, I'm leaving inspired in my thoughts and a little bit more in love with being a mother.

THese photos of you and your girl are just heaven...so glad you have a great weekend together- long live talking in the car!

Melissa xx

Melissa said...

How much do I love, and totally feel in tune with this post Suzanne!
I nodded, sighed and felt more and more wistful as I read it!
You are so right!
That article was so right!

{And yes serendipity is wonderful!}.

I will be spending much time thinking about this as I go about my afternoon- trying to break from small routine behaviour, until I'm presented with a day equivalent to your morning on the slopes!

As always sweet friend, I'm leaving inspired in my thoughts and a little bit more in love with being a mother.

THese photos of you and your girl are just heaven...so glad you have a great weekend together- long live talking in the car!

Melissa xx

Stitchfork said...

Ahhhhh! Wonderful photo of you two smiling beauties!
xo

GLENDA CHILDERS said...

I am delighted that you had time with your daughter in California. Just love the picture of the two of you.

I remember, ages ago, when my mom unexpectedly was able to visit me in college. She was in Viet Nam then and I didn't expect her to be able to come. (People didn't travel like they do now.)

Fondly,
Glenda