Thursday, July 26, 2012

Capturing Boredom

1.  the state of being bored;
tedium; ennui.

origin 1850-55  bore + dom

dullness, doldrums, weariness
excitement, diversion, amusement

Recently, a good
friend of mine
declared over coffee,

I either have to
get a part-time job
or a puppy.

Her three children
are all tweens or
teens and as a stay
at home mom she's
found herself staring
down some long days.

She's bored.

Although I totally
sympathize with
how she must feel,
I can not relate.

At all.

In fact, the more
that I thought about
her words, the more
I began to worry a
bit about myself,
because I am never,
ever bored.


Honestly, I'm not
sure I ever have been,
even when employed
at some pretty
mind-numbing jobs.

I'm writing this at
an assisted living
home, as the sweet
strains of my daughter's
harp entertains guests
in the dining room.

You can learn a lot as
an observer, here.

The residents do not
rush through their 
meals.  They savor
them, lingering over
coffee, heads bobbing
in conversation.

Many drift by the harp and
speak in low tones to my
daughter, thanking her
for sharing her music or
admiring her instrument.

When they finally do
get up to leave, even
 those with walkers
and canes stride briskly 
past us with purpose.

We have places to be!
they seem to say.

Definitely not bored.

When we pull into the
 drive of the Homes each 
week, there is often someone
sitting in the sunshine,
eyes closed and face
upturned toward the light.

Do I think they are bored?


That sort of time ~ time 
to enjoy the rustle of leaves
from the lake winds or the
feeling of warm sunshine
on rosy cheeks, seems to me
like one of the sweetest 
that there could be.

Every day I find myself
thinking, I need to Google
that! in response to a question,
thought or idea that I want
to pursue when my schedule
allows it.

There are books to be read,
movies and shows to devour,
recipes to be tried, photos
to be taken and trails to be
cycled, loved ones to be cuddled,
good friends to be chatted up,
 and the ever changing show
that Mother Nature provides
to be admired.

There is so much to know
about life, living and this
beautiful planet that we call
home, that I believe I will
still be hungering for more
when it's time to depart this
 lovely Earth.

Am I weird that way?


But bored?  No way.

How about you?  Are you
chasing boredom, or do
you wish for more hours
in each and every day?

Oh, and
my friend?

She got the puppy.



Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

A puppy will INDEED keep her busy and on her toes, especially if it is a TERRIER!

Dearest, how are YOU? Well, I am certainly NOT bored. Our summer has been fabulous. Painting studio walls, creating and SELLING (yeah!) and entertaining friends. I am grateful to have a mind that needs to be fed and a spirit that seeks and finds diversion. I was in Excelsior the other day with my out of town visitor and thought of YOU and wondered, "Where in the world is her HOUSE?!"

Love, Anita

Mary Timmers said...

What's that addage "If you're bored, you're boring"? Something to that! And you are definately not a boring person! The part about googling something-- I could spend all day looking up and researching things. And how wonderful for your daughter to learn to give and serve at her age. She will never be boring either!

Farmgirl Paints said...

maybe you've always just known what to do with yourself. others not so much.

i think boredom is much more than a feeling or state of has to do with purpose and whether a person has figured out what makes them truly tick and feel alive. a sense of lack luster, has the person searching for that thing they are meant to do...whatever that is.

maybe sweet suzanne you are one of the few that finds that purpose in the simple pleasures of everyday:) regardless, never feeling bored is a blessing i assure you.

Susan T said...

The older I get the less boring life becomes. I can remember being bored sometimes during he summer holidays when I was a teenager, so anxious to grow up and start what I considered real life to be. If only I could have put a an older head on young shoulders.

Like you I have a LONG list in my head of things still to do and I wonder if I will ever get a chance to fit them all in.

Anne Lorys - Fiona and Twig said...

Hey, kindred spirit!
I don't understand boredom, either.
My mind is always whirring around thinking about this or that project.

There is so much out there to delight the senses if you just pay attention!


traci said...

i am never bored either. there is always something to do or read or clean or etc... boredom isn't in my vocabulary. when the kids were young and they would say "I'm bored" my husband always told them "If you're bored than you must be boring" then they always found something to do. they didn't like the thought that they may be boring.

Olive Cooper said...

Love this post and I am never ever bored. At age 50, retired as a nurse, with my kiddo in college I am busier than ever. I have flowers to plant and watch grow, grass to cut, books to read, I want to write more, and the list could go on and on. The big big task for next year is I may take the master gardening class. Scary but exciting. And we have a new puppy!

Blondie's Journal said...

I think living in the moment, as these seniors do, is the key. We all live on borrowed time. What could pass for boredom is just my quiet time, I love it!


Beatnheart said...

Thank you so much for your visit and sweet comment. You know how to live life well. Your blog reflects a woman who has so much going for her... A heart wide open , an inquiring mind...and someone who seeks and finds beauty and a glass that is never half empty.

Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

Oh my friend, it IS a great time to be in Minnesota! Have fun with your AMIE!!!


June said...

I can't even comprehend boredom. I don't think I've ever experienced it in my life since I had the six sweet things that accompany me through life. You know the saying...'always a mother'.
I am grateful for quiet times when the world quits spinning so fast. but NEVER bored.

I know I tell you this every time Suzanne, but you write what's in my heart. Thank you.
hugs from here...

White Ironstone Cottage said...

Oh My I had the same conversation with a good friend I actually laughed outloud bored really Life is so full and fun???
Wonderful post you always share such heart

Elise Ann Wormuth said...

I love your post today. I have just retired (a week ago!) and I have so many things I want to do that I almost don't know where to start. Our daughter (still a teen) says, "I'm bored . . . " and I tell her that if you read, you can never be bored (she's not a big reader). I think we're responsible for entertaining ourselves with things we love to do, read, visit, etc. . . .

Jenny Short said...

I don't know how to get un-busy. It is not in my genes. I think it is in the genes. All my children are creative in different ways and I am glad to see that in them. All the messy places in my house were because we were doing something more important. Yes, I had a maid once a week and still do. But, that leaves me free to do the things that really matter to me. Creative people are drawn to each other, too. xo Jenny

Happy Homemaker UK said...

I would feel really uncomfortable being bored - so much to do, see, learn, and friends to visit with. I feel I am not appreciating the day when I'm bored, so I am a busy girl :) Gotta run.... (just kidding)

The enchanted home said...

ANOTHER brilliant post Suzanne. So well said...there is so much life to live, that if you really think of all the discovering and learning there is to do, one would be brainstorming about how to fit in more hours to each day!! But I think your friend might be confusing "boredom" with "resassesing" a new phase of her life. I remember going through it (in some small way still am) when the kids are getting older, dont'need mom around so much and suddenly bam! there you are....all this free time! I am glad she got the puppy, who will no doubt keep her busy and boredom will be nothing more than 7 letter word :)


It is funny, Suzanne, I just said to Dave yesterday that I was feeling a little bored with my life. But when I read your description of things that keep you un.bored ... I love all those, too. So maybe I am a little lonely. That makes more sense. I still need more people (especially some closer to my age) in my face to face life.

You sound ... fun.

ps. no puppies for me ... I guess I will have to go back to work :)

Stitchfork said...

Bored - never! There is too much to do and learn, and more people to meet, and places to see.....
xo Cathy...who wishes for more hours in the days

Palomasea said...

Bored? Never ever...
Amen to your wise words, dear Suzanne...
And how fantastic that your daughter plays the beautiful harp for these dear souls?
Your photos are splendid...
Enjoy the weekend, sweet friend!
- Irina

doodles n daydreams said...

Life is too short to be bored, so much to do and see and not enough time to do it all.
And thank you for the birthday greetings for my good bloke, he was really chuffed to think bloggers who didn't know him would take the trouble to send birthday wishes.


Jane said...

I was raised by parents who said "You can never be bored in our family". I took them at their word. I never was. I also don't have enough hours in the day. Too much to discover! J x

michele said...

NEVER BORED. just never. my family would check me into the hospital if ever i began to mention it.

too much to learn to see to hear to love.

an article i wrote on boredom for parenting magazines is my #1 bestselling piece of all time. so it strikes a chord with people. boredom doesn't mean one thing, and especially for children. it can signal all sorts of other issues: underchallenged, overtaxed, lost, sad...

oh let's be weird together someday, my friend. and let me hear the sweetness of that harp!!!


Tiffini said...

oh my...ME? never!
like you there are always things in the back of my mind that I want to when I have time.

Maybe it is the way each one is wired..I don't know. I have heard that before from momma's who's kiddos are older and are stay at home mom's who get bored. I've never been one of them.

but so happy she got the puppy...although I never liked cleaning up the! I wouldn't find that fun...:)

happy friday girlie.

pollydove said...

I had a friend say that to me once, and I thought, "BORED? How can you possibly be bored? I haven't been bored in years!"

And I LONG for the day I can quit my job and stay home and savor and enjoy ALL that there is to do at home, in my yard, with my children, my grandchildren, my sisters, my friends .... you wrote how I feel beautifully my friend! xoxo

Violetas Rendadas said...

É mesmo uma grande benção você poder ver a vida assim e viver dessa maneira. Fique bem sempre, parabéns pelas postagens!

Leslie said...


First, how wonderful that your daughter is volunteering her time to entertain the guests at an assisted living home. You've taught her well :)

Secondly, I love your perspective on life.. and specifically, how certain individuals experience boredom. How unfortunate that they are missing out on all these wonderful things you've mentioned above.

Seems the older I get, the more I want to live each day to it's fullest. Learning new things, making new friends, this is what life is all about.

Have a wonderful weekend Suzanne!


Linda @ Itsy Bits And Pieces said...

I am never bored either, Suzanne...and often just wish for a little more time in the day! I do think boredom comes when you aren't experiencing all of life! I am sure the residents at the assisted living love having E. play for them...

Art and Sand said...

Your love of life shows.

I have never allowed the B word to be used in my house or my classroom. I too am never bored and find interest in life. I tell my students that only boring people get bored and they need to find their own interests.

Jemsmom said...

There aren't enough hours in the day for all I need to do! I was worrying about when Jemma goes to school ( all day every day...), but I have so much to do here that it will hopefully fly by!

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Margie said...

I cannot relate to those who are bored at home! If I possibly ran out of things to "do" I would NEVER run out of things to "read"!!! I have bookshelves BURSTING with books, then there are my magazines - new AND vintage - not to mention all the wonderful blogs out there! And when I want to get out of the house a little bit, there are lots of Antique stores surrounding my home that I can go browsing in.

There's always something to do, make or read ... and always somewhere interesting to shop! (and in between all these things ... I clean! :)

Margie said...

P.S. I LOVE your blog ... I'm a new follower :)

Joanna said...

I'm totally with you - I never get bored! I'm dropping a day at work in September so I'll only be doing 2 days a week (yes!!), and my colleagues can't understand me - "What are you going to do all day?" they wonder. They just see home as a place to clean. They then look at me and say, rather pityingly, "Oh yes, you have your 'hobbies'" like I'm really rather odd. I just tell them I don't have time to work!

How sweet that you and your daughter visit the assisted living home, what a difference to their day you must make.


Jeanie said...

I rarely, if ever, have been bored. Even when the work is busy, there is too much of it to idle. If anything I find occasional inertia in a plethora of choices! And really, that isn't so bad because I usually end up picking one and all is well!

Been a crazy summer (no boredom here!) and I am delighting in this post and your past ones -- your fun house and the beautiful "Being there." So much to savor.

Tammy@T's Daily Treasures said...

I am stuck inside each and every day because of the heat and because it is Ramadan right now and nothing is open since there's no eating/drinking in public from sunup til sundown. But never, ever am I bored ... ever! I have so much I want to do each and every day. Crochet, cross-stitch, baking, cooking, reading, blogging, sometimes just being. Maybe your friend needs a blog so that she can rediscover the world around here ... or a hobby. I can't imagine ever feeling like I have nothing to do. If the weather was agreeable, I would be out there pounding the pavement each morning. Being outdoors and exercising certainly energizes me for the day. Boredom is not a concept I understand. Just like babies, puppies don't stay puppies forever. What will your friend do next? Happy August to you! Tammy

patty said...

made me smile. out loud. ;)

patty said...

made me smile. out loud. ;)

Lili said...

Our daughter has declared that the phrase "I'm bored" is a bad word in their home. I love it! There is always something wonderful to do in life isn't there?! xo ~Lili