Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Being There

I could have just
as easily skipped our
regular McDonald's
date on that day ten
years ago. 

But he so looked
forward to it.

So, in we went, my
son anticipating his
chicken nuggets and
the giant play land and
me a few still moments
with him sitting across 
the table, cheerful grin
 and eyes the color
of milk chocolate, as
he tucked into his
Happy Meal.

We ran into a friend
having lunch with 
another friend of hers
and were introduced.

That friend had a little
boy the same age as
mine and shyly at first,
and then more boldly,
they tackled the play
land together and became
fast pals.

Later, they would tackle
pre-school, elementary
and the first year of
middle school together,
as well.

Last summer when this
best buddy and his family
moved to Chicago, my
son had to navigate his
first real loss of someone
who had always just
been there.

As those of us more 
seasoned know, there is
no easy way to cure the 
sadness that occurs when 
a person who is close to 
you is suddenly far, far 

And boys aren't always
the best at keeping in 

But these two stayed
connected in a way that
previous generations have
not been able to,
through e-mail, texts and
on-line X-box games.

{It probably helped that
during the years the boys
were forming a solid
friendship, so were their

So it was with happy
anticipation that my son
and I visited our Chicago
friends last weekend, to
see them in their new
home, to catch up, to
laugh and to enjoy having
them just be there, like
the old days.

As my Gigi used to say,

Nothing good lasts forever.

But I like to think that if
friendships have deep and
solid roots, they do endure,
even if the friends are not
geographically there for
each other any longer.


Perhaps they can even 
in a new, 
different way.

The tender friendships
one gives up, on parting,
leave their bite on the heart,
but also a curious feeling 
of a treasure somewhere
~ Antoine de St. Exupery

Do you have a
close friend
who lives



Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

Yes I do. AND just about 3 weeks ago, SHE FOUND ME, after 37 years. She is coming THIS MONDAY to stay with me for a week.

I had always thought of her, but she was not on Facebook. But the nature of her job allows to "bump" into lost people and she found me and when I received a handwritten letter in the mail three weeks ago, I recognized the handwriting and the state from which the letter was sent.

This is the perfect post for me today as I prepare her room, my home, and my heart to receive one of the best friends I ever had. Thank you dear heart! Anita

jeanette from everton terrace said...

I do.
My best friend since about age 5, lives in CA and I'm in AZ. We are lucky enough to see each other a few times a year. It's always the same, as if no time has passed at all since our last visit. My other close friend of 32 years lives in England so our visits are a bit more spread apart :)
I enjoyed this post today. I only had a daughter and often wondered about boys and their friendships. Very nice to see this one, what handsome boys they are!

michele said...

that is such a gorgeous quote, suzanne.

i am lovin the turban photo shoot!

smiles to you.


The enchanted home said...

I have goosebumbps!!! You always do that to me.....absolutely beautiful and poignant and so touching. I like to think friendships are the exception to the rule of good things not lasting forever and looks like the boys have proven that...what a sweet sweet story Suzanne:)

Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

Oh Suzanne, thank YOU for visiting! I so love to weave images and words together. I hope you are enjoying or good weather!! Anita

Debby said...

Such a sweet story.
Yes, I have several friends that have moved away, too far away. I don't like it at all.

Mona Thompson Providence Ltd. said...

I love this story. True friendships do indeed stand the test of distance. I hope that the boys will stay connected forever...they can share DIFFERENT experiences through each other. How neat is that!

Julie said...

Thank you Suzanne.... :-) xo

NanaDiana said...

Oh- Yes- I do! My very BFF lives about 6 hours away now. We do talk but it is not the same, is it?

You and your friend are so cute together and I love the pictures of those boys. How special that they will stay connected! xo Diana

Farmgirl Paints said...

You know I do:(

I think it's awesome you were able to have one on one time with William as he reconnected. You are such an amazing momma!

Charm Bracelet Diva said...

Are you kidding? I'm a transplant here in Chicago, by way of Kansas and Philly. ALL my great friends are back home on the east coast and it kills me they're so far away! Every few years we have a girls' weekend, but it's certainly not the same as being there. The best one of all and I keep in touch via phone a few times a week and she met us at the shore last week while we were on on vacation! It's nice the boys can keep in touch, I've thought that about my kids, too, this past year as they left best friends for different schools. Guess there's something to be said for Face Time after all. :) Thanks for sharing the sweet boys with us.

traci said...

how wonderful for all of you!! true friendships will last no matter the distance.

Jemsmom said...

Wow... You have really hit it home here for me and now I see it with my daughter. I am so fortunate to keep up with my best friends throughout different stages of my life. My best childhood friends live in Tennessee and Alabama. We meet up every year to do a race. My best friend from my newlywed/beginning teaching lives in England now and we chat often and thank goodness for Facebook! I talk about once a week to my soul sister that I met living in Michigan. As we moved from Charleston, it broke my heart to see Jemma leave her best buddy. It has been awesome though to watch them Skype with each other! Far away just isn't as far away anymore.

Susan T said...

I moved around a lot when I was young, so yes I have friends in far off places. Christmas is the time we all catch up, it makes it extra special to get news from different parts of the globe from people who were a special part of your life, we grew together and part of us still does.

Biz said...

Oh Suzanne.

As of now all my close friends live far away.
Bud and I have discovered that we are in a friendship desert here.
It's hard to make friends for some reason.
It's a weird stage of our life.
We are hoping to move next summer (a year earlier than most), just so we can get somewhere else and try again.
We will continue to try here...It's not for a lack of trying to make just seems that we can't get into any of the clicks here, we suddenly are back in middle school and we are the dorky kids no one wants to play with.

It's okay though, God brought us here for a reason.
It also helps that we do have friends all over that we keep in touch with via Skype, email, and Facebook.

Your son's smile is heartwarming!

Linda @ Itsy Bits And Pieces said...

Such a sweet post, Suzanne! I did have one of my best friends move across country and I had a hard time with it...but we keep in touch and she just visited me a couple of weeks ago. We just picked up where we left off...Great photos, wonderful you two could take this special time together!

Pondside said...

That was so sweet.
During all of my son's growing up we were transferred back and forth across the continent, up and down to Oklahoma and twice overseas. Through it all he remained friends with one boy whose mother had become my dear friend. The 'boys' are 31 now, and we four are still in touch, and I visit my friend every year, although she lives across the continent.
What a gift you're giving your son.

doodles n daydreams said...

My best friend from school days went to live in heaven 6 years ago, we always kept in touch although we both moved to different cities when we married. I missed her heaps.
But thank goodness for technology, distance is not so great any more, the world is a much smaller place now. The 'boys' will be able to keep in touch easily and keep the friendship going.
Have a great week.


Tiffini said...

i have been thinking of you in bits this last week. no idea wny:) you were off having fun
this is beautiful. you never cease to amaze me with how you weave life story together.
our boys. last night my 17 year old went out to swim ( very rare) and I jumped out there to sit with him to get what few minutes i could.
boys are a little different than girls in the time they spend with you. your mcd's story reminded me of this. they grow up way to fast.
happy friday sweet suzanne:)
lets continue to be risky ok?

Anonymous said...

Hello to a fellow (suburb of Mpls.) Minnesotan! I live in the Plymouth/Wayzata area. Three of our four kids went to Providence (saw the PA tshirts). What a beautiful post on friendship! Love following you, Suzanne....your posts are always filled with such inspiration. Blessings to you!

Jeanie said...

This is a beautiful post, Suzanne, and reminds me of my friend, Nancy, who lives in CO. She lived next door to me as a child and when I was five and she, four, they moved to Montana. Our moms helped facilitate our long-distance friendship in the earlier years -- birthday presents, postcards from travels written in the giant-scrawl of a child who can't write yet and addressed by mom. Years later, we were able to do it ourselves, with handwritten letters, and then phone calls. Now we visit, mail and email and talk on the phone. Some 55 years later, we are still close. I'm glad your son will have that opportunity!

vignette design said...

What a dear post! Love this story of friendship. My 26 year old daughter met her best friend the first day of kindergarten. Turned out, her mom and I are now best friends--we even have the same birthday: 2-4-54!

Whosyergurl said...

I have always kept in touch and never let distance get in the way. I live in Indiana. A gal I've been friends with since age 5 is in TN. Another friend since age 17 is in North Carolina. The internet does help. I hope your guys can be friends forever. You are so pretty!
xo, Cheryl

Lisa at Shine Your Light said...

That is so nice that you went to visit your old friends and have kept in touch with them since they moved. Hope you had a wonderful time on your mom-son journey!

Thistle Cove Farm said...

Glenda sent me -smile-. All my close friends live at least three hundred miles away. We get together when we can and count it a blessing.
It's wonderful your son and his friend built a friendship to be valued in this, sometimes, frosty world.

Sarah @ Modern Country Style said...

Facebook and the internet makes it SO much easier to keep in contact, doesn't it? I think it's one of the best things abut the easy to just write a quick email, rather than pick up the phone after a long day! But, I guess, on the flip side, it makes superficial relationships more appealing than deeper ones....but it sounds as though your son and his friends have managed well on that front too!!

I'd say he must have a LOVELY mummy!


Palomasea said...

What a beautiful post, dear Suzanne. Isn't it wonderful when friendships do not fade away because of distance...
So happy for you and your dear son.
Yes, I have had quite a few friends move far away...never easy.
And do I recognize those lanterns from a certain Asian place in SLP??
Stay nice and cool this week...
- Irina


I am so glad you made it to Chicago to see your friends. Sorry I missed you. I love this story of friendship.

Sadly and wonderfully, I have so many friends that live away ... a only a few here. It takes time.

patty said...

or a friend who lives close but is far away? i read this as i am still mourning a friendship that is pittering away, with heartache. but also, remembering my best friend, from when i was 12 years old, who lives many states away, but with whom i still have such a close relationship. i hope they stay close-what a special friendship that would be!

Lili said...

Oh yes yes I do and she is coming for a visit in less than 10 days! We met in 10th grade and we're still as crazy as ever when we get together. Some people you just know will always be a part of your life. Great post! xo ~Lili