Monday, October 24, 2011

Closed



I passed this sign today.

Closed.

{Not forever; just for
the winter season.}

Made me recall that
old saying, When one
door closes, another one
opens.


Instead of ice cream after
baseball games on sweltering
summer evenings, now it's hot
cider on chilly fall nights.
Open.



My son had his 12-nearly-13 year
 check up today.  At 5'11'', 
the days of me enfolding all
of him on my lap or in my
arms are over.....closed.  But
now when he accompanies
me on errands, he proudly
does the heavy lifting.
Open.


The last bloom on my rose
bush greeted me this morning,
a reminder that our precious
growing season is practically
closed.  But, as the garden gets
put to bed, so do worries about
watering, weeding and trimming!
Open.



My yoga group split up this 
fall after one member dropped
out, one moved and the host's
schedule made it tricky to meet
there anymore.  Closed, after five
 years of seeing each other twice, 
then more recently, once a week.  
Things like this run their natural 
course, said my wise hubby. 

He's right.

This winter I can fill that free hour
with snowshoeing or cross-country
skiing on the lake across the road.
Open.


Still accessorizing at 94 : )

My grandma, Gigi, sailed quietly
into her 94th year this fall, not
knowing most of the family that
loves her, a closure I will never
really get over.  But when I last
sat with her and observed her 
unique mannerisms and funny
expressions, which persist despite
dementia, I felt blessed with the
knowledge that~ no matter what ~
our true spirit remains with us
until we are called home.
Open.

Yes, seasons change.
Children grow.
Flowers wilt.
Friends disband.
Memories falter.



But, it's how we respond to
those closed doors that makes
all the difference.

All the difference.

What doors are swinging 
open for you, my friend?

I'd love to know.

xx
Suzanne

42 comments:

Felicity said...

First and foremost thank you for yet another glorious, thought-provoking, heart-warming post.

For me it's all about possibilities.

The possibility of selling our large home on acreage and moving into town. Peace & quiet & nature - closed.
Freer weekends and less driving - open.

The building resilience of my body after years of ill health - closed.
The ability to work again, be productive and bring in an income - open.

The end of winter and the warming up of spring - closed. The planting of my summer herb & vege patch - open.

Biggest of happy hugs from over the seas - arms closing around an open heart.

xx Felicity

PS: Is that your front door? It's truly beautiful.

Linda said...

Your posts are always so wonderfully thought-provoking, Suzanne! Life IS always changing and evolving...I try to be open to change and ready to try new things. You just never know what life has in store for you!

Marie said...

My mom always said one door never closed but what another one opened. Life is like that, a series of closing and opening doors. We need to grab our opportunities wherever we find them! Another beautiful post Suzanne!! Thanks! xxoo

LibbiesHome said...

I love this perspective about open and closed. And a side note- hot cider with a spoonful of caramel ice cream topping stirred in is quite lovely. :)

debbie h. said...

Doors closing...that seems to be all that happens when you have kids. How I wish I could slow down time, the days go by way to fast. As I watch my boys grow and enter into their early 20's and late teens, I just hold my breath and say non-stop prayers. While these doors close, I am opening doors to my art and trying to find ways to cope, accept and enjoy all the emotions and changes that are my new life with my boys. It is HARD letting them grow and go out on their own. Your beautiful and sometimes sad words, are so enlightening to me and are always a welcomed gift.
Love,
Debbie

Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

You are fabulous. Insightful, poetic, TRUE. There is never a shut door that remains like that forever, because there is always a portal into something that is much more suitable for the moment...thank you dear friend. Anita

Happy Homemaker UK said...

I'm still not over that Dairy Queen being closed for the season - how we love it so. Lovely thought-provoking post, as always. XOL

Farmgirl Paints said...

oh girlie i have no idea what doors are swinging open for me, but i'm hopeful there will be a door;) i've thought about you a lot this week for some reason. my folks leave tomorrow. we are much overdue for a chat. i'll try and call you later. love you!

Cashon&Co said...

Your grandma is 94 and her legs look SO YOUNG. What's her secret? Ha!
I actually don't mind seeing a closed sign on Dairy Queen though. I had a TOTALLY GROSS experience there about 17 yeas ago that I can't get out of my mind no matter how hard I try. Ahahahahah

You are such great story teller!
Xo
KC

Sally@DivineDistractions said...

Oh, Suzanne. Your words are the perfect start to my day today. I'm so ready for some new doors to fly open for me! Lot's of closings over the last couple of years, and change is really my welcome friend....hurry up! Your words today are my reminder to focus on the present and be grateful for what is within and before me, not what is past. I'm saving this one!

michelle said...

Oh my goodness, I am not sure why this beautiful post brought a tear to my eye. I know that many doors close and maybe it was about your grandma that hit too close to home for me, something that I am not able to get fully over, but I know that so many more doors open up and we have to be ready to accept them.
have a wonderful day.
xoxo

Lisa @ Shine Your Light said...

A beautiful perspective. Change can be hard, even if it's just a change in your routine, but you are so right, change allows a new door to open. Thanks for the reminder and your lovely words today Suzanne!
And an early happy birthday to your 5-11 almost-13 year old!

Tricia @ A Rosy Note said...

I always love your posts, Suzanne. It seems like you take things that I think about too, but word them in a way that I never could. Sadly, I focus more on doors closing than doors opening lately, since I'm feeling like life is going by so quickly. I just need to look to the possibilities that it holds, I suppose :)

"Create Beauty" said...

When our daughter left for college, a door closed .... my little girl had grown up. When she got married, another door opened for her into her new life, mine into an empty room (that was finally clean! ... which didn't even help : )

Now I have two more little girls to love and a sweet boy, what JOY this door has opened into! I see her smile in them, her face as a little girl.... and get to love little ones all over again.

Getting older, a door closing on the past.... but I love the view this new door opens into!

Such a beautiful thoughtful post, as always,
~ Violet

Beach House Living said...

A lovely perspective. It's true things change, run their course like your yoga class. Sometimes, we don't realize at the time it's the groundwork for a new path that leads to another door.

Days at Buttermilk Cottage said...

Life really is an ongoning process, isn't it? That's why I try to enjoy every day that comes my way.
Best,
Susan

A Gift Wrapped Life said...

Such a lovely reminder and so beautifully written........as always. XO

pollydove said...

This is so beautiful Suzanne, as usual. You truly have a gift for expressing sweet emotions. I have lived with regret for a long time. I was watching Oprah's life class the other night and her theme was "When you know better - you do better."

So even though I have had a few tough years, I have found lessons in those challenges that have changed how I think and feel. I am in a new relationship now and need to look at it as a door WIDE open with all sorts of wonderful possibilities ... leaving what was behind the door - behind. Thanks for this beautiful reminder "lesson."

Designs By Pinky said...

I love your outlook! I am glimpsing doors opening to me. I am trying to peek around the corner to see what is in store but have to wait and see. It is much too personal to reveal here but I am hopeful. Thank you for the reminder to be OPEN!!!!!!!!!!!!! XO, pinky

A Cottage Muse said...

As my son, my baby, is enjoying his senior year I am realizing he will be going off to college and my nest will be empty. Closed. However, I realize that he is ready to take what he has learned under this roof and venture out on his own. Open. Not sure if this qualifies since our door will always be open to him!

Biz said...

Life lived freely--closed.
Life revolving around a wonderful baby girl--open!
Despite being at the beck and call of someone else and having my entire day revolve around what they want and need, I've never felt more OPEN!
All the possibilities and the joy of watching her grow :)
My days of working outside of the home--closed.
My most important job ever having started--open!

I hope you are having a Blessed week!

Biz

Jemsmom said...

Suzanne, you write the most perfect, well timed post of any blogger I know. I always read yours ready to ponder what you have bestowed upon us! I love them!!! I am struggling with my baby growing up on me, but I am trying to think of how wonderful all of our new experiences are. I still miss those baby toes sometimes though... I just can't help myself!

Low Tide High Style said...

I have lots of doors opening for me right now, and sadly, a few are closing too. As you so sagely said, it's all part of the circle of life and the natural course of things. And as long as that circle remains unbroken, I am ok with it all!

Great post as always my friend!

Kat :)

Shelly @ Life on the Wild Side said...

This is so beautiful, Suzanne. I absolutely love it. You reminded me today that those closed doors are actually opportunities for more--more growth, more excitement, more love. How wonderful!

michele said...

oh the photo of your dear grandma in socks, suzanne. it will stick with me for awhile i think. i love it so much.

door opening...hmmmm...i'd have to say the door to the gym is open--the folks there treat me with such kindness and nurturance, and i'm unathletic so it's humbling but i so need it now for my health. and there are doors closing because i am choosing to close them in order to live more authentically and with quality as i have been spread too thin. that feels good and empowering, and i wish it for everyone.

love to you, friend.

michele

Blooming Rose Musings said...

Oh Suzanne, I absolutely love your posts. They are always so thought provoking, sensitive and gentle. It is so true that doors do have to close and others open. But I also believe that sometimes we close doors too soon and have to re-open them for a bit. The beauty is that when, and if, it does close then it opens the possibility for another wonderful door to open. XO

Tiffini said...

as I listen to your heart..I hear and understand some. I don't know if it is age but I am thinking more this way these days.
A door closes but yet another..opens.
for me, the dream is waiting to be taken hold of..I get all anxiety ridden and then I am not able to take it and live..so finding the beginning ..the plan if you will to pursue it.
I will..not beating myself up. There have been many changes all at once..some really good:)
I am encouraged by your perspective Suzanne..it makes all the difference doesn't it? I learn much from you. Praying you are FULL of energy for what is needful today. Take care of yourself..
xo

My Grama's Soul said...

Oh Suzanne.....once again....you have done a post that so touches my heart. Yes.....as one door closes another opens....so the saying goes....."nothing changes...if....nothing changes". I really believe the one of the only constants in life IS change.

Hugs to you sweet lady,

Jo

A Vintage Chic said...

Oh, so beautiful, sweet Suzanne...I love coming for my visits with you. You calm my soul.

This year, the door swung WIDE open to more time with my husband and daughters...so many changes, that at first were scary, are now life-changing blessings...

Loss of job became work-from-home business that's thriving...scary leap-of-faith leaving of traditional high school became beautiful, time-together home schooling around the kitchen table.

Life is good. Open.

Thanks for all you share, my dear friend...

Julie

A Vintage Chic said...

I forgot to add--you really need to tell me your very own haunted house tale...would love to hear it!

Julie

Sylvia said...

That is right Suzzane,
when one door closes,another one opens and my sweet grandpa ( with the most adventurous spirit I have ever known ) would add : but you still have to get up off your " seat " and enter the door ...yes , and that I have often found the hardest part -to take action, to get out of your comfort zone, to accept the fact that change is an inevitable part of life ,to stop living in the pass, to empower yourself ...and on...and on... - sometimes an "open door"can be a challenging experience (I know - and rewarding as well)

Deborah said...

This was so touching and truthful.
Such is the circle of life...you always find such beauty in everything :)

Much love,
Deborah xoxo

lisaroyhandbags said...

Love this post Suzanne.
Leaving behind our Muskoka place on the river forever ~ closed. Not having to worry about it from a distance ~ open. The end of a design career ~ closed. Time to spend discovering other creative talents ~ open. Our first chapter of being an expat in Ireland ~ closed. A new adventure in Dubai where the future is unknown ~ open. The extreme heat of the summer and staying indoors ~ closed. Cooler days to get out and explore our new city ~ open.
I agree - it's all in the way you embrace it whether the door is truly closed or open just a crack to lead to new things. xo

Ticking and Toile said...

Lovely lovely post....what a brilliant writer you are my friend. :)

xo,
Shellagh

Julie said...

Suzanne, another lovely post that as always, moved me. You know the doors swinging open for me...Iowa livin in itself will be many doors opening...as the doors behind me in NC slowly have swung shut...though a few remain open, to swing one way or the other I hope, as I revisit, or peeps and family visit here. - sigh a DQ closed...sad. And I smile with you about your GiGi. I have to ask...was that her sock and shoe???
just wondered. wouldn't doubt it, knowing all you have shared about her. HUG that big guy anyway. I still do, and lean over when they are seated and kiss the top of their heads...even the Marine, yes. they roll their eyes, but know they are loved beyond measure...miss all of them. Glad I still have Kam. I think at 17, he has passed 6 feet, maybe six foot one now, and I am so grateful for his help too. Thanks for sharing and have a fantastic Fall day...inspired to get cider now, by the way! xoxo

Stitchfork said...

Always looking forward to the next doors opening -- good things await!
xo Cathy
...who also loves the sons-heavy-lifting help!

karlascottage.typepad.com said...

I enjoyed your silver lining sentiments.

Frizzy said...

We learned Monday, we once again were not chosen by an expectant mother who was looking at our family profile as a potential family for her infant. Another door closed.

Wednesday, we learned of a new expectant mother is going to receive our profile and serveral others to review and possibly choose a family for her little one. Another door open?

I am always so touched by what you share and how you share it. You have a true gift!

Faded Plains said...

Your beautiful posts always leave me thinking...thank you ;o)

Hindsfeet said...

what an *incomparable* gift tonight!!! Thank you, with all my heart for this.....

....events have unfolded in my life which have precipitated an unexpected move to North Carolina to help some family for awhile.....it means leaving my beloved Virginia, which I was making my peace with this weekend...

...and then I happened on your post tonight...

....oh my dear, you are a breath and a light...

I am deeply *deeply* grateful.

-liz

Lili said...

You have a way of slowing my pace down with your thought provoking writing Suzanne. It's just nice to linger a bit over here savoring your lovely thoughts and thinking about how they apply in my life too. Our seasons are continually evolving in such a natural way it seems, except for the snow falling outside right now, the day before Halloween! But it is still very lovely. Autumn closed (if only for the day). xo ~Lili

patty said...

you are too wonderfully sweet. i would love to have coffee with you one day. or maybe snowshoe across your lake. :)
xo
ps: my age is growing in numbers (closed) but my love of activity has blessed me w good health, so i continue to do what i love and even learn new tricks (way open)... like snowshoeing, perhaps. :)