Monday, June 20, 2011

A Few Kind Words

What a difference
a few words can make.

~ My William

As the only child
since his sister
flew the coop
with her school
group to Italy 
last week, my
son and I have
been spending a lot 
of time together.

Like the State baseball
tournament, where
we cheered our
varsity team on to
win the consolation

And our bicycle ride with
the bigger boy ~
aka his dad and my
hubby ~ on Father's

A few meals out.
Table for three.

And errands together.
A two-some.
Like the old days,
when his sister was
in school and he was 
the little brother,
longing to be there
with her, but also
happy to be my
co-pilot as we cruised
through days that were
gone in a heartbeat.

6AM Smiles

After we dropped his sister off 
last week in the wee hours of the
morning, we celebrated
her travel adventure over
breakfast at our local
mom and pop establishment.
Our waitress was a
real grump.

Today we
took ourselves to 
another local eatery,
where we felt like
royalty, simply because
we were thanked
several times for visiting
 and also told by at least 
two employees to have
a great day.

And that brings me back
to William's quote....

He noticed.

Which is saying something
when you are 12 and a 
half and your head is
filled with baseball and
X-Box and wanting to
start your own business.

{He plays a mean
Hotel California, too!}

Last year I happened upon
a small but powerful little
 book, titled Silver Boxes.  It 
was about the importance of 
positive words; how they 
are really like wonderfully 
wrapped gifts for those who are 
lucky enough to receive them.

When William noticed the
silver boxes that had been
eagerly handed our way
at the pancake house this
morning, it got me 

Thinking about you and
all of the wonderful silver
boxes that I receive with
each and every comment that
 you leave here for me.

Words that lift.
Words that sing.
Words that edify.
Words that humble.
Words that bless.

And I am certain that 
you are the type
of person who also gives
silver boxes ~ those few
kind words ~ to others that
you encounter every day.
{And probably don't even
realize it!}

Thank you for that.

I truly, truly
thank you.

Now I'm off to finish
laundry and do some weeding
and pay bills that are due
and book plane tickets
for our summer holiday.  
We are still grasping
bit to find our new summer 
normal around here, especially
with our girl being gone.

But we're getting there.
Things ramp up over the next
month starting Monday, when
I'll become reacquainted 
 with my chauffeur's cap.

Until then, I'm going to
enjoy cheering at my son's
baseball games and listening
to tween boy conversation
in the car as we head to the
DQ with his buddies afterwards
for a Blizzard or a Mr. Misty : )

And if I can inject a few kind 
words along the way, I'm going 
to try my darnedest to do 

Kind words are a creative force,
a power that concurs with the
building up of all that is good,
and an energy that showers
 blessings upon the world.

~ Lawrence G. Lovasik


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Susan T said...

I hope that your life is full of silver boxes. You certainly have a way with words, kind generous and uplifting.

Your children are adorable, your daughter, so like you.

Let us all hope it is a silver box day today, if one of us starts the ball rolling who knows.

T's Daily Treasures said...

Grumpy people in the morning are the worst. My youngest is also 12-1/2. We are enjoying the summer holiday most days at home, in our pajamas as it is too hot to get outside. My 15-1/2 year old, on the other hand, is always off with his friends doing something. Our baseball season is November through April because temperatures are a bit more bearable then. However, Zack says that he is done with baseball after playing for 8 years.

Encouragement is oxygen to the soul! Have a terrific Tuesday. Tammy

LibbiesHome said...

You will probably never know how much I needed to read something positive this morning.

Low Tide High Style said...

Another lovely post Suzanne. And it's so true that a few simple words of kindness go a very long way! Enjoy your together time with your son!

Kat :)

Happy Homemaker UK said...

I just dropped my kiddos at summer camp - AAGGH! So I totally get what you're going through :) Love your post - how wonderful to have the time to focus on your son XOL

Melissa said...

i am smiling big & wide {as you can imagine with tears in my eyes!} as i read this post...

there is nothing like time with a son...
i have so much love for Sol, i so understand every emotion you have here...

the days when their big sister's were at school and they were our big & wonderful they are now...

their passions for their chosen sports, their friends & their sisters...

i once asked Sol why he loved Audrey so much- without missing a beat- he said "because she made me a big sister" - he was 6 or 7...and i fell in love with him even more...

enjoy your beautiful boy time...they are precious...

melissa xx

Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

Dearest Suzanne,

I am so blessed to have been given the chance to become a teacher of language,for I have learned the power of the symbols, the sounds and the meaning of such silver box treasures. My dream now, as I age yet become younger in spirit, is to master how I issue out these trinkets of gold and silver in order to EDIFY, ENCOURAGE and GUIDE. Thank you for your beautiful mind that you so eloquently share with us with such ease and grace. Your children are just GORGEOUS, and what a gift to have your son with you....

Many happy days to you dearest, Anita

Anonymous said...

Such positive thoughts you give us all this morning. Sorry your little girl is gone, missing from the nest for a while. She'll be back soon. :-)


A Perfect Gray said...

precious post, suzanne. I need to keep those thoughts with me always. words do make such a difference in each of our days.

Leanne said...

I was just thinking about stuff along the same lines as this yesterday.....why is it so hard for some people to just be nice and remember some basic manners?? I don't get it! This was a lovley post. I find I'm spending a lot of one on one time with my youngest too. The almost 17 year old is kind of living separately from us these days....oh I guess we're boring and not as smart as her!!

Emily Maxson said...

"Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones" proverbs 16:24.

What a wonderful reminder Suzanne. Thank you!


Jane said...

Oh, Suzanne, an utterly gorgeous post. I am so moved. On all levels. You have such a gift with words, my friend. J x

Sarah atRosePetals said...

You never know what someone is going through and what a few nice words might mean to them. Words are very powerful...I choose them wisely everyday.
Your's are especially...I am uplifted when I read your posts.
I hope you enjoy this special time with your son. What a treat to have him all goes by quickly so have fun at those ball games!
You've been a wonderful gift in this big blogging world! :)

traci said...

it is amazing. kind words have so much impact. and they are so easy to say. great post suzanne. have fun with your son. what a great opportunity for some one on one time. even though you probably miss your girl like crazy. mine was just in tennessee for the weekend and i missed her terribly.

Stitchfork said...

Love the silver boxes idea! Someone had given me a set of business cards once - they were called Job Performance Cards. On it was written - Note to Employer: Do not let this employee get away. This person is a value to your firm. Always brought on a smile!
xo Cathy

hometown girl said...

it is so true, just a smile and a kind word can make a difference! i've been soaking up the sunshine and baseball here too. i can't imagine the day when she is off and i'm here with the boys. it must be hard. you are one good momma! xo susan

Shelly @ Life on the Wild Side said...

So much insight from a sweet boy. I loved this post, and I'm pretty sure I'll think about it all day as I spend time with my 13-year-old. :)

Jo said...

Thank you for the gentle reminder ... I'll be sure to pass along a few kind words and smiles of my own today. Enjoy your time with your sweet boy ~ this is such a great age.

Have a great day ~

SuzyMcQ said...

Thank you for the reminder. In a time when so many are struggling on so many fronts, especially economic, words of kindness and encouragement remain free....for the giving and the taking!

Julie said...

Love it. thinking of the words I use this week as that "little box".... that the moments that will come my way where a conversation will open up...wherever I am, and the words that come out of what was opened will be silver or gold...sweet gifts of encouragement that bring hope or a smile, or simply an affirmation to someone that they are special, just like your restaurant moment with your guy....what a difference, indeed!thanks for sharing....xoxoxo

deborah said...

i am with you and william, suzanne. a kind word is sometimes the only kindness a person gets. when coming upon a grump, i often remind myself, i don't know their struggles-what's going on in their life. it makes interacting with grumpy mcgrumperson's a mission to be generous with kindness. well, i try. somedays, i'm better than others. enjoy your bonus one-on-one time with your boy. we are up to our eyeballs with baseball, too.:)

Charm Bracelet Diva said...

What a blessing to be able to spend this time with your son! The family dynamic is definitely changed when one is gone. I'm hoping to create some special moments with my own chickadees this summer myself (the beach was a great start). Try not to miss her too much, she'll be home before you know it!


Days at Buttermilk Cottage said...

I usually make it a personal challenge when someone is being grumpy (nasty) like your waitress last week, to really say something nice to them. Most of the time it works and their inner nice person shows up for the moment, at least!

Deborah said...

Suzanne..visiting you here always brings emotions to the surface...
tears today..
You are the "Queen" of kind words.
Your words have moved and touched me over and over sweet lady.
Your moments with your son sound so wonderful and I just know he treasures them in his heart, as does your daughter.
I read that book too, years ago and was deeply moved by much truth, and words we need to hearand to give to others.
Your words are always silver boxes sweet girl.
You probably have no idea how they have touched others...but Im here to tell you that they have..and I thank YOU..
Summer blessings to you dear friend, as you prepare for your summer hoidays.
Love you!

Deborah xoxoxo

Jenny Schouten Short said...

You're doing very well with your daughter gone. We sometimes lose sight of our second born and now you have him all to yourself. Enjoy this special time until the boss returns, ha. xo Jenny (remember I had five)

Marilee said...

Hope you have a blessed day and enjoy that sweet time with your son.

Thank you also for the very kind words.


Gretchen said...

I always enjoy your posts Suzanne. Entertaining, thought provoking and inspiring are what you are to me. You are a huge blessing to many of us that follow you with awe of your sweetness, your kindness and your talent in written words. A gift indeed.
I often attempt to pour some "sugar and cream" to add sweetness to a grumpy persons attitude in life, and it always strikes me how most people respond to that. I believe we are all people that can use a bit of cheering up, sunshine and silver boxes passed their way. Words are what can break people and/or make them. Love this reminder of yours to continue to hand out silver boxes and to take the time, and make that extra effort to edify and lift others up. We do reap what we sow as well, so all around a good practice more of us could make strives with.

Biz said...

Dear Suzanne,

Thank you so much for this post.
Did you know I needed to hear this today?
Did you know that I've been struggling with words and I've been praying for them.
Thank you for helping me find some.
Thank you for the perspective!

Have a Blessed Day,

pollydove said...

I loved how you expressed this sentiment in this post ... kind words matter so much! They really are uplifting, and not hard to share either! (Yay for blog comments in our days, huh?!) Your son sounds pretty amazing!

Whosyergurl said...

What a lovely post. I am sure that both of you miss Sis. But enjoy your boy...boys are SO sweet at that age! (Mine was, anyway...and now he is nearly 24. Still sweet!)

Farmgirl Paints said...

i'm glad you put a pic of him up. i wasn't sure if i'd ever seen him before. isn't it weird how the dynamic changes when you get them one on one?? i need to remember to do that every now and then. it's like they are different people entirely.

Tiffini said...

You girl - lift us up...just reading your words today..positive us a glimpse inside your heart with your son..missing your daughter..getting in the groove of summer..thank you.
praying you have a summer like no other and enjoy that DQ. I am a Blizzard girl all the way...with extra extra Snickers;)

Carol@TheDesignPages said...

We had an identical situation here when our son went on a class trip for a week leaving his sister as the only child. It was a great time to connect on a completely different level. Glad to have found your blog:)

The French Maid said...

What a sweet post...such special time together for the two of you.
I'm your newest follower!
--Lee Ann

A Rosy Note said...

What a wonderful post, Suzanne. Kind words are like little gifts, aren't they? It sounds like you're having a some great one-on-one time with your son. My mom watches my daughter a few days a week and it gives me time to enjoy being with my that :)

Anonymous said...

Great post Suzanne. Fiona xxx

Lisa said...

You of all people in blogland always make a moment to share a few kind words and for that I am always so grateful lovely friend!!!
Enjoy your time with your son as the center of the universe for this week! And have a happy weekend ahead!

Linda said...

Beautiful post, Suzanne! You are one of the best I know at handing out those silver boxes, my friend! I'm glad we are friends!

Anonymous said...

Oh my did this take me back about 11 years! My oldest son, also a star baseball player into high school, also learned to play Hotel California at about that age! By 13, he gave up baseball for golf and had a great run. Music is his calling and is a struggling singer/songwriter. He loves what he does and that's all that matters to his mom :)

Loved your story!

Amy Arnaz said...

Absolutely agree with you, Suzanne. A few kind words can make a huge difference. Can make or break a person's day. Love the fact that your son is aware of this. He'll become one of those rare young men who will smile and say Good Morning and hold a door open for an old woman. Love that. xoxo Amy

Joanna said...

Beautiful post, Suzanne.

To me, handing out these silver boxes is so easy. To others it seems to be the hardest thing in the world to give them out and also to accept them without suspicion. Sad.

Gorgeous photo of William with Gracie.


Courtney Walsh said...

This is my first time visiting your blog--I noticed we like and comment on a lot of the same blogs, so I thought I needed to get to know you! :) I'm so glad I did. I love the whole concept of silver boxes. :) And if you haven't booked your plane tix yet southwest is having a big sale! :) Good luck!!

Shabby Vintage Junk said...

Heya Suzanne....!

Man oh MAN I've MISSED popping in here regularly....Your post as ALWAYS is BEAUTIFUL....I do so LOVE your writing style....Thank YOU for the 'smile'....!

Speaking of LOVE....I'm absolutely SMITTEN with the first pic of William holding his dog....THAT's a HEART STOPPER right there....!!!!!

Here's to silver boxes EVERYWHERE....!!

Cheers....For now....From Oz,
Tamarah :o)

Jeanie said...

What a wonderful way to think of words -- silver boxes. I always love to visit here -- I leave feeling so full of joy.


So lovely to have time one on one with our kids. Kind people are some of my favorite people in the world. Three cheers for kindness.


Lili said...

Oh I love it when our kids notice and appreciate the little nuances in life like this. It's a special connection that is so fun to share with each other. Love that concept of the silver boxes! I just know you are savoring these times with your son Suzanne. xoxo ~Lili