Thursday, May 19, 2011

Waste Not

When we are old
our lives become the
sum of all whom we
have loved.  It is
important not to
waste anyone.

~ Bernard L. Lifshutz

I read this quote on
a park bench on
the River Walk
in San Antonio, Texas.

It made a home in
my heart and I have
cradled it there for
the last month.

All of the
natural disasters
around the globe
this year ~

wild fires

have made this
quote especially
meaningful to me.

When interviewed,
individuals who have 
narrowly escaped one 
of these tragedies 
typically aren't
mourning the loss
of their possessions.
It's the people 
who may have perished
that cause the tears to flow.
Or, they are celebrating;
Thank God we all
made it out okay!

I love collecting things and
I love reading about the 
collections of others, too.
But when it comes down to it, 
the most priceless collection
of all is truly those people
who we have loved.

Because really, at the
end of our lives, it's
our relationships
that we cherish above
all else.

husbands and wives
moms and dads
sons and daughters
brothers and sisters
beloved pets
aunts and uncles
friends who feel like family

The sum of

We've had a full moon
these past few nights and
when I gaze at it pinned 
up in the sky, surrounded
by stars, I think of people
on that list who are no longer
here on earth to share this
beauty with me.  And yet,
they will always be a part
of that unique equation 
that is mine, alone.

For them and for those who
I am still lucky enough to
share the journey with, I
don't want to squander full
moons or bear hugs, bare
feet in the grass or early
morning sunlight caressing my
 face.  I want to recognize
and remember it all.  I don't
want to frivol away any of it.

The changing seasons have a way of 
sharpening the senses, of refocusing
 the lens on this glorious earth that
we call home.  I hope that you
get the opportunity to revel in its 
magic over the next few days with
someone who loves you.... Or
perhaps sit quietly in the sunshine, 
connecting with the 
memory of someone dear,
who was integral to the 

It is important not to waste anyone.

Have a beautiful day,



Teacup Moments said...

oh suzanne, how beautifully written. this post resonates so much with me. i reveled in the magic of nature with my closest and dearest these past weeks, too. and i like how you put it - for us not to squander anyone. you are an inexhaustible font of inspiration, really!

Susan T said...

I remember those who are just out of my reach, and those who I will love beyond measure who are yet to be.

The smile of my son, the touch of my daughter and the endless kidness of my husband.

I treasure every memory - hold them close and keep them safe for day's when the clouds come.

Your wonderful writing inspires the BEST thoughts - a gift.

Indie.Tea said...

What a beautiful post. And yes, it is something that we think all too little cherish each moment with our loved ones, especially the small moments :)

Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

Touché. This life is a one-time chance to create a love story and to quander it is a waste, indeed. Love IS the only thing we will take with us and possess for eternity. Beautiful thoughts my friend!!! Anita


I place a high value on people and relationships and truly believe that every person I meet, has something special to offer me, if I will take the time to get to know them. And now that world is expanded even more by blogging.

This is a great and sweet reminder, Suzanne. People matter. I love this beautiful post.


Alicia said...

what a beautiful reminder, suzanne.
xo, alicia

Jennifer said...

Maybe that explains my feelings lately - it knowing what I have in my life and what a great gift it is - I don't know if you saw my post yesterday but it is along the same lines - not aywhere near as lovely as your's .... this touched my heart in so many ways. It is such a gift to be able to put into words one's heart and soul and then gift it to others - I thank you. Jennifer jennsthreegraces

Jennifer said...

I had to add that the song "All We Are" we often play at the "Healing Circle" I attend and it's one of my favorites! Jennifer

Lisa said...

What a lovely reminder, and so beautifully said, Suzanne! I am jotting down that quote to hang somewhere in my house!
Happy weekend my friend.

Anne Lorys - Fiona and Twig said...

So much beautiful truth here, Suzanne!

As the wildfires crept closer these past weeks, I seriously contemplated that which was most important to me...and each and every time it came down to relationships.
Not things or possessions, but that which cannot be replaced.

Wonderful food for thought, friend!


A Vintage Chic said...

I loved every single wonderful word of this post, Suzanne....such truth and important not to "waste anyone"...I will cradle that in my heart, as well.

I always treasure the sun on my face, the wind in my hair, the beautiful music of birdsong, my family...but I will do it more profoundly today because of your thoughtful words, dear friend.


Wishing you the most wonderful, family-filled weekend, Suzanne...


Rene said...

What a beautiful post Suzanne - a nice reminder that the important things aren't really things. Enjoy your weekend.


Stitchfork said...

The sum of us and the sum of you - what a beautiful expression Suzanne!
xo Cathy

Farmgirl Paints said...

you're beautiful you know that right? i had such a great time yesterday. thank you for being a part of my life!

Beach House Living said...

A Beautifully written reminder. Thank you.

Sandra said...

Beautiful, just beautiful. What a celebration of life and what is truly important.

My Grama's Soul said...

Oh Suzanne....what a special post this is!! The smallest gesture can let someone know you are thinking o them....let's all try to do something "small" today.



Frizzy said...

Your words touch me so deeply.

I can't tell you how many times I've told a friend or loved one each person, experience or moment from our past has brought us to THIS precise moment in time.

Each part of the equation no more or less important than the other as they've each made us who we are TODAY.

Like you, I collect things. Things that remind me of someone or a special moment. In reality, that item won't bring back the person or the event but it helps me keep them close to my heart, safe for eternity.

Thank you for sharing your heart so beautifully.

Happy Homemaker UK said...

...or just to sit in their sunshine, as you glow together. Great thoughts to ponder over the weekend :) Girl, you are in the zone! XOL

Deborah said...

So true and so beautifully spoken.
Seize the day!
It holds so many opportunities...and lets not ever despise the "little things". Most often they bring the greatest joy xo

Deborah xoxo

Tiffini said...

there are times the feeling is so strong to just scoop up those moments and always have them before me so I don't give us grace to be present in those moments! i enjoy the way you take life's deep moments and weave them into a story that breathes. Happy Happy Weekend:)

pretty pink tulips said...

After spending 3 days away from my family this week...I am thankful to have a relaxing weekend without much scheduled.

So important to spend time with and connect with those we love.

Enjoy your weekend, Suzanne!!
xoxo Elizabeth

Beth said...

What lovely thoughts and words to wake up to on a Saturday morning. My little family have gone to the markets and I'm going to get out of bed and make something nice for when they return to show and tell them how much I appreciate them...thank you for the reminder. Have a wonderful weekend.

Mona Thompson said...

Suzanne, You are so right. I would be NOTHING without the family and friends that love me...Did you see my post this week that I did for you? Entertaining on a friendlier budget? It was a casual get together for my family...inspired by you!

Claudia said...

I love this post, Suzanne.


Kat said...

Wow! Such lovely words, so beautifully written! Wow!

June said...

Suzanne I have had so many of these things on my mind for awhile now. Right after the earthquake in Japan my heart started to grieve for the people who left this planet that day and I think I felt the loss of each of them. I took it so personally. Then the awful tornados that hit here in the US and the images of the people mourning their losses was so hard to watch. You just want to wrap your arms around each of them and tell them everything will be OK. Then Dale's father died and the process of helping his mother with all the things that needed to be taken care of seemed to weigh heavy on my heart. So much sadness.
But every morning I realize the gift of life I've been given and want to give it my all. But it definitely has made me more determined to live my life more on purpose and make differences in the lives of all I come in contact with.
What a beautifully written post from the heart my sweet friend. Thank you!

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Linda said...

I love this post, Suzanne! I think with the passage of life, and those close to me, who have gone on before me...I have begun to appreciate my time with my family and friends even really is what matters!

Olive Cooper said...

You are right people before things all the time.

lisaroyhandbags said...

Such a beautiful quote and beautiful post. Things are just things but people are what life is all about xo

Lili said...

Such beautiful thoughts Suzanne and always so very moving to remember loved ones no longer with us for whom our love for still lives on. xo ~Lili

Blooming Rose Musings said...

This is another wonderful post, Suzanne. I have always thought it so sad when I see family pictures in antique stores or at flea markets. How does one discard people so easily? People and animals all have heart beats and require love and respect to thrive. I always think of spring as a time of renewal of both the earth and our spirits. You are so correct, it's all about the heart beat of love and not to waste anyone. Thank you, Suzanne.

White Ironstone Cottage said...

Beautiful Post and so true in every way
Thank You for sharing your heart

Cindy said...

What a beautiful post, brought a tear to my eye. I have been feeling the same way lately, but could not articulate it as you did.
My grandmother told me to look at the tip of the moon and she will be there watching over me...

Jeanie said...

Indeed -- everything you say is so very true. It is so important not to waste anyone -- wonderful phrase.

I've noticed, as you mentioned, that rarely are people concerned with WHAT they lost, but who. As I look at my overcluttered space, wondering where to begin, I am lured away by tea with a friend or a phone call with another. Nothing gets done. Yet everything gets done.