Friday, July 30, 2010

I Wanna Be Aunt Bee


I'm soooo tired.

Tired of
worrying about
what I eat
how much I exercise
eye cream
anti-aging creams
sunscreen
vitamins
supplements


Adding highlights
covering gray
volumizers
frizz control


What I
wear
Too short
too long
too old
too young


Sometimes
I envy
women of
past eras....
{On most
things I'm
grateful for
being a woman
of today}


In days gone by
you'd reach
"a certain age"
and expectations
about looking
young faded ~
It became about
comfort
in your own skin
not trying to
change that skin
or erase those
wrinkles
or fit into spandex.

This is more like it!

In the car yesterday
my {ever-wise}
teenage daughter
posed this question:

If I start using 
wrinkle cream now,
will I be wrinkle-free
when I am your age?

{You know, old!}


Apparently
society is so
terrified of 
looking older
that even our
youngest are
worried about
wrinkles!

The bombardment
of commercials ~
Restylane
miracle creams
Nutri-system

The Hollywood
surgery crowd ~
Nicole Kidman
Priscilla Presley
Jessica Lange
Meg Ryan
Raquel Welch

Victoria Secret ads
on mall walls
sides of buses,
television.....

What happened
to the days
of Aunt Bee?
She was the 
maiden aunt in
the hit TV series
The Andy Griffith
Show.


Gray hair
soft physique
aprons or
house dresses
ate what she wanted

Watching re-runs
as a child 
she represented
the elderly, to
me ~
When the show
began in 1960,
she was 58!

Women of
a certain age,
1940's:

Ladies in Lavender, 2004

Women of
a certain age,
21st century:

Priscilla Presley, age 65

So,
what did
I tell
my daughter?

That while
creams might
help prevent
wrinkles on
the very top 
layer of the skin,
a well-lived 
life goes
deeper.


Smile
and laugh lines
have to
be earned
and shouldn't
be erased.



That pinning
your sense of self
on a facade
will only lead
to unhappiness
as that facade
inevitably changes.

Castle ruins ~ Scotland
To develop
an inner life ~
of interests,
relationships
and meaning ~
that she can
always be proud of
and will always 
carry with her.....
on the 
inside.

To enjoy her
precious young self
and forget about
wrinkles!


It's been a
long week
and I'm soooo
tired.....

Thank you
for listening.

I'm feeling
better, already : )

{Now, 
if I can only
get a nap!}



[all images:  google;
I was too tired to
take my own!]


Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Waiting for Mr. Darcy





I knew
it would 
happen.

It had to.

When you
fall in love
for the first
time....
and you 
 are both fifteen.....

Well,
it's only
a matter 
of time
until a heart
gets broken.

We've had
such a summer
here at
Privet and Holly.


It began with
this message,
from her boyfriend,
in her yearbook:


Have a great
summer.

She thought
he was going
to be part of her
summer....


Kind of.
Sort of.
She hoped.


Although,
looking back
she realized
the writing
was on the
wall months
earlier and 
she'd chosen 
to ignore it.

A lot of
our very
best conversations
happen in
the car.


We've spoken
at length about
what she learned
from this
relationship....
What traits
she wants,
someday
in "the one" ~
characteristics that
are important
to her and worth
holding out for.

One day, after
ruminating
on love
and marriage
{me behind the
wheel, she
in the passenger seat}
there was 
silence.

And then she
softly declared,
"I want a Mr. Darcy!"


She'd read
Pride and Prejudice
in school and we'd
recently rented the
BBC movie version
of the book.  She
admired Mr. Darcy's
honor, his ability
to communicate
with the written
word, his honesty
and willingness to
declare his love.


Yes,
he's handsome
too!


{I have to admit,
I'm a bit smitten
with him, myself!}

When I was in
seventh grade,
I fell in love
with my first
book to
silver-screen hero.

Deeply, madly
heart pounding
and pulse racinging-ly
enamored.....

....with Rhett Butler
of Gone with the Wind!


Now, if I'd been
acquainted with
Mr. Darcy,
it might not have
been Rhett....


But at that
time, it most
certainly WAS!

Have you ever
fallen in love
with a literary
character or
one from a 
movie?  An
actor or singer?

Please,
do tell! 

It will be
just
between
us : )


xx Suzanne

A million thank yous 
from the bottom of 
my heart to all of
you who left such
inspiring and uplifting
messages about my dear
friend, Kathleen.

Her journey
begins today and
your words were
the most special
bon voyage.





[images: 1-4, flickr
{click for attribution}
all others: google]

Friday, July 23, 2010

Metamorphosis

1. (noun) friend 




a person you know well
 and regard with affection and trust 



When 
you've known
someone
almost half
of your
life....

Three Muskateers, 1998

{from newlywed
working girl ~
to hoping 
to be a mama ~
to mama!
to mama
of older kids}

Always
there for you

2008

beautiful

kind

loving

compassionate

kindred spirit

When does
that person
change from
friend
to
family?


2006

Isn't it
strange
how
non-relations
can become
closer
to your
 heart
than some
of your own
family members
with whom
you share
the same
blood,
the same
ancestors

but who
don't really
know you
as well....

2009

Know that
you cry
easily
from emotion.

Can become
so animated
that you
finish her
sentences.

That you
have
an old soul
and love
the same
pretty things
as she
does.

2007

That you
have untold
questions
about spirit
and faith.


All our
children,
now out
of
elementary school...

Giving us
freedom
to fly farther
from the
nests,
together.

Charleston
in January

Na-da Farm
sale in May

Savannah
in June!

2010

My dear
friend
Kathleen

sister of
my heart

About to
take a new
journey

Through 
surgery
and possibly
radiation
and chemo...

A different
trip than our
others....

But one I will
be with
her, on
every step
of the
way.

I love you,
Kath!



Dear blogging
friends, please
send your prayers
to my soul sister,
Kathleen
for her surgery
on July 27th
and for
the journey
that lies 
ahead.
We both
truly believe
in the 
power
of your
positive thoughts
and prayers.


[images: P&H archives!]
First pic is our
girls
Summer 2007