Thursday, September 16, 2010

Better Together

Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy,
like art, like love.  It has no survival value;
rather, it is one of those things that give value
to survival.


~ C.S. Lewis




I flew into Chicago
last weekend
to spend precious time
with my dear friend
Kathleen
as she endured her
first round of
chemotherapy.

She is such a
sport
so full of
faith
of life
the best friend
a girl
could ever
ask for.

I also spent time with
 sweet friend Fiona ~
She has her 
own story, 
as well....
for another time,
another post.

Put us all together:
Me and Fiona,
cooking...
Kathleen, cheering
us on....
And you have
almost 137 years
of living
and loving
between us.

Three peas in a pod
Fiona, Kathleen, Me

Despite her awe-
inspiring attitude,
Kathleen's energy
ebbed and flowed.


So, this was our
prescription, our RX,
 for her first 
chemo weekend...

Cooking


Collaborating,
Fiona and I cooked
and froze seven double
batches of our go-to
meals....

You'll find one of
them, my recipe for
the most yummy and
easy soup  here.

Eating

When she felt
up to it, we fed
her comfort food,
including this.


White Truffle Mac
and Cheese, Kasey's
recipe over at Lola B's.

Decorating

Kath was feeling
a bit overwhelmed
by some unfinished
projects which she's
had to set aside 
during her illness.
So, Fiona and I
tackled a few hanging
jobs, including the
start of her
{special} K wall.


Talking

We sat outside
one lovely night
and talked and talked 
and talked.  Great
medicine for anyone!

Her gorgeous back yard
Although Kathleen
abstained, Fiona
and I toasted her
courage as she faces
this beastly disease.


Many cups of tea
were consumed, 
as well!


Laughing

Not deep stuff,
but it made us
smile...and laugh!


Fashion show

{For the weeks to come.}

New hats....


And new wig...


{She rocked both looks!}

Did I mention kids?
Husbands?
Well, they all made
the weekend possible
for us....and we were
very grateful.

I even sneaked in
breakfast with my
sweetheart God-daughter,
Isabella ~ Fiona's oldest.


Here she is with
Kathleen's kids ~
Aren't they all
adorable?


 I am six hours
away from Kathleen
and Fiona by car....
An  hour,
by plane....
But always,
always,
close in my
heart.

I miss them,
even as I
embrace the
normal rhythm
of my own home
and family.

And I know
you understand
just what I mean.


One round
down,
five to go.




No distance of place or lapse of time
can lessen the friendship of those
who are throughout persuaded
of each other's worth....


~ Robert Southey



PS:  Thank you for your
continued thoughts and prayers!
They continue to mean
so much to me and Kathleen.

My Feathering
the Nest giveaway is
still open...




[images:
1, 3  flickr {click for attribution};
4,11,12 Google images;
rest P&H] 










42 comments:

Anonymous said...

What a blessing you are to your dear friend. It must have been such a comfort to have you there to help out like that and for your support. You have a great big heart! xo

cityfarmer said...

you're an angel from the Northland

what a beautiful post
what beautiful faces, hair or not!!!!

this will NEVER be forgotten by family and friends ...

I can almost hear the laughter and the chatter ...

I lift my glass to Kathleen

clink
a toast to the art, the love and the survival of friendships!

Days at Buttermilk Cottage said...

Well, once again, you've brought me to tears...but in a good way. All my best thoughts are with your friend and her journey. I know she treasures the friendship she shares with you and Fiona. It sounds as though the two of you were just what the doctor ordered. The food looks wonderful, taking care of the undone project will make Kathleen smile everytime she sees it, and the companionship is priceless. We should all be SO lucky as to have such friendships.
Susan

Deborah said...

You are such a dear friend..a friend loves at all times..
and that is the kind of friend you are...


Thanks for this thoughtful and caring post, my friend

Deborah xo

Violet said...

Friendship helps us through the hardest times, and can always bring laughter, even through the tears. What a blessing you girls were and are to your friend.

And I hear that you and Anita are going to meet up for the Creative Connection this weekend! Oh, I am soooo excited for you both, what fun it will be!!!

~ Violet

Claudia said...

What a source of support you are for each other. I know that your presence helped your friend profoundly. My thoughts and prayers are with her.

xo
Claudia

Vonda said...

Friendships like this make the world go round--caring for one another. So special.

Anonymous said...

A priceless friendship - I am so glad you all could get together. Sending pink thoughts to Kathleen!
Hugs,
Zuzu

Kim@Chattafabulous said...

You are so lucky to have each other! Prayers still going out for you all. Oh, and I'm gonna get that soup recipe. I love soup!

Ms. Bake-it said...

Hello Suzanne,

I know how much the things you have done and are continuing to do for Kathleen mean to her. I have done the same for my mother. Kathleen will really need your support as she goes through her rounds of chemo because the effects can be debilitating. I have had six months of experience with that through my mom and it has been a rough ride. She completed her first round of radiation and chemo, had a break for a couple of weeks and has just recently completed her second round of chemo. Your love and support will help Kathleen get through the roughest hours. You are a blessing and an inspiration.

Kathleen, as well as you, continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.

Warmest regards,
Tracy

Farmgirl Paints said...

This is love in motion! It's what serving and being Jesus really is all about. What an amazing friend you are. The meals will bless her heart and having her friends to share with will give her that extra strength she needs. Awesome!

Can't wait to see you tomorrow friend:)

pollydove said...

The closeness and love of girlfriends is truly one of life's greatest gifts, isn't it? I am heading off to California in a couple of weeks and look forward to time with just me and my two best friends from middle school!

It really is nice that you could share this difficult time with Kathleen, nothing would mean more than your presence I am sure.

(That picture of you and her daughter is DARLING!!!)

My Grama's Soul said...

Three beautiful women making memories together.

What a treat for all of us!!!! The "C" word can be scary but sounds as though your friendship and all the prayers everyone sends Kathleen's way will make the trip a much easier one.

Blessings to you dear lady,

Jo

Hilary @ Sweet as June said...

There is so much to be said of a person who cherishes their friendships... I applaud the three of you for keeping those ties strong.

black eyed susans kitchen said...

Wishes for energy and strength to your friend. Your kind heart and cheerful spirit must be of great help to her.

pretty pink tulips said...

Suzanne, I had the privilege of spending time last night with 4 friends from high school....some who I had not seen in a long, long time, as they live in Texas still. One had lost her husband to cancer last year...and when we went around and caught up on families and friends, we realized, life is real. Life can be hard. But friendships make anything and everything tolerable until it becomes truly better.
So happy you had the time with Kathleen and Fiona.
Blessings to all of you!
xo Elizabeth

Fearless Nester said...

That picture of the 3 of you just shows how strong we as women can be together. What a wonderful support system Kathleen has right now, you guys just exude an inner resolve that you'll always be there for each other. What a beautiful bond you have! May God Bless each of you! ~Lili

Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

What a touching post. I live for friendships and friends. Work consumes us, friends and loved ones comfort us. This was beautiful, Suzanne....these two women are so lucky to have you....I so wish we could have spent Saturday together, but it just didn't work out for either of us...enjoy a peaceful weekend! Anita

A Vintage Chic said...

What a beautiful post on friendship, love and true service, Suzanne...I'm sure she will be so much stronger through all this because of your love for her.

Thanks for sharing her journey, and yours...

Julie

Jemsmom said...

How blessed you ladies are to have each other in your lives. That friendship is truly a gift from God and this bond that you all share will get her through those treatments. What a special time for you to all be together. You are a gift to her as she is to you. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Ticking and Toile said...

oh Suzanne,
You are an angel. How very sweet of you to be there for your dear friend. She will be in our prayers. Tell her all of bloggyland is praying for her!!!! :)

xo,
Shellagh

Miss Sew & So said...

friends like you gorgeous suzanne- just make my heart smile...
of course i am tears all over the keyboard again...she looks soo well kathleen...her life is blessed to have you in it.....

sending you huge hugs and basking in the glow of your kindness....
melissa xxxx

Morning T said...

You are such a sweetheart for lending a hand and your heart to your friend. Thanks for sharing this with us and I'm sending cyber hugs to Kathleen now.
Happy Friday.
T

Laura said...

Suzanne-
There is nothing stronger than a group of dear women friends.
What a blessing,

Laura
White Spray Paint

lisaroyhandbags said...

What a true friend you are - reaching out when she needs you the most, giving support, love and many needed laughs during such a challenging time. The bond the three of you have will pull her through this challenging time and you just can't put a price on true friendship like yours. Blessings to all of you and big hugs for Kathleen xo

Blooming Rose Musings said...

Suzanne-What a dear blessing you are to Kathleen at this difficult time. I know you also feel very blessed to have her in your life, as well. There is nothing like friendship between women...and somehow we all become sisters. Please tell Kathleen that we are all keeping her in our prayers and sending her good thoughts. Suzanne, you are a dear,dear person.

June said...

Suzanne, I wonder if you realize what a gift you are to your friends. Fiona and Kathleen are so blessed.
hugs to you...

Kristin said...

What a beautiful and touching post! I'm wishing your friend all the best!!! Thanks for entering my giveaway and for your sweet comment! Your blog is very nice so I'll be following you too :) Have a beautiful Sunday! xo's Kristin

Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

My dear Suzanne! THANK YOU for coming to see me even after a tiring day, but a GREAT ONE I suppose, at the event!!!! Oh, I wish I could have gone, but it was best to stay put....like you, the last two weeks of school have been one big race and scramble to learn new things. ALL of us teachers are experiencing the TYRANNY OF THE URGENT and it is fatiguing. I was feeling pretty blue there on Friday, just thinking how I simply cannot keep up. However, my post recounts the true story of Thursday afternoon and it was an instant idea for a post. I know how busy you are, and I hope that your days become better paced as we all simply cannot and shouldn't live like this. Enjoy your Sunday dearest,and drink some of that Paris tea! Ohhhhh, we could have had a little tea party with dear Koralee, who is probably in the air as I type!

Blessings, Anita

traci said...

You sweet thing. She is so lucky to have great friends like you and Fiona. Friendship is an amazing drug. My prayers to Kathleen.

It was so nice seeing you again and meeting your beautiful daughter.

Alisa said...

She is sure to pull through like a champ, with friends like you two.
Keeping her in my prayers!

paige said...

i'm certain that the time you spent loving on her was as powerful for her healing as any chemical. i'm certain of that!!
you are such a selfless friend who obviously loves well!
praying for your kathleen today!
& those precious children!!

loved hearing about your junkbonanza time with becky!
ya'll are all so gorgeous!!

hometown girl said...

i will add her to my prayer list, you are all so blessed to have such wonderful friends. thank you for sharing her story. hugs, susan

Brenda Kula said...

You're such a loyal friend. I know it meant the world to her to have you there. I've never heard that quote, but I do love it. My thoughts are with you all. She has two good women on either side of her. That should make it just a bit easier.
Brenda

erica@ moth design+luxe life said...

Suzanne- you are one special lady. Truly the warmest of the warm and loveliest of the lovely. Sending healing thoughts to Kathleen and a few to Fiona too. Much Love, Erica

Gretchen O. said...

WOW! Sending thoughts your friends way! You are a good friend!

--Gretchen O.

Jeanie said...

Oh, Suzanne, Kathleen is indeed a fortunate woman in many ways to have you as a friend. To walk through this time with her will and in such a personal and truly helpful way will be far more wonderful than any flowers arriving at the door or cheery get well card. Those are good. This is great and it just fills my heart with joy to read it.

I love the idea of filling her freezer with wonderful things and doing things to help about the house -- those "I can't do it myself" things always bug us, don't they. The K wall should have an S and an F in there, too!

Thanks so much for visiting my blog and leaving such wonderful comments. This morning was a tough one -- reading your comments got my day off to a renewed start!

Dovecote Decor said...

Suzanne, I just loved my visit to you. It is not virtual fresh air, and shouldn't be trifled with. It is the perfect rough sawn board that cracks my heart open. Life is full of trouble, and worry, but...friendship and solidarity will always elevate tragedy. You always drag me to the light, and that is the definition of a friend. You are a laser pointer, reminding us of where to dwell. We will have to pick up the phone re GC. My family is so large and spread out, somebody knows somebody. I'm glad you liked my Newf ballad. It is important to write poems.
xoxo
Liz

Burlap Luxe said...

Beautiful post, thank you for your visit dear one! If I am every this sick I want you to be my very best friend.
my prayers go out to Kathleen and to you my dear for the beauty in your heart you hold.
Blessings from your sister in through him.
xoxo
Dore and daughter Hannah

Anne - Fiona and Twig said...

I can imagine that you are exactly the sort of wonderfully caring, devoted and loving friend I would want at my side at a difficult time like this.

I stand in awe of your talents always, but this day, I stand in awe of you as a woman.

Love,
Anne

Lisa said...

A good friend walks through everything with you. You are a good friend indeed.
My best to you all in the pod!
xo

Kathysue said...

Suzanne, thank you for sharing your wonderful and inspiring story. Kathleen is so lucky to have you in her life, what a blessing you are. She is such a pretty lady with a gorgeous family. Now I have a face in my mindn when I pray for her. Hugs Kathysue