I knew
it would
happen.
It had to.
When you
fall in love
for the first
time....
and you
are both fifteen.....
Well,
it's only
a matter
of time
until a heart
gets broken.
We've had
such a summer
here at
Privet and Holly.
It began with
this message,
from her boyfriend,
in her yearbook:
Have a great
summer.
She thought
he was going
to be part of her
summer....
Kind of.
Sort of.
She hoped.
Although,
looking back
she realized
the writing
was on the
wall months
earlier and
she'd chosen
to ignore it.
A lot of
our very
best conversations
happen in
the car.
We've spoken
at length about
what she learned
from this
relationship....
What traits
she wants,
someday
she wants,
someday
in "the one" ~
characteristics that
are important
to her and worth
holding out for.
One day, after
ruminating
on love
and marriage
{me behind the
wheel, she
in the passenger seat}
there was
on love
and marriage
{me behind the
wheel, she
in the passenger seat}
there was
silence.
And then she
softly declared,
"I want a Mr. Darcy!"
She'd read
Pride and Prejudice
in school and we'd
recently rented the
BBC movie version
of the book. She
admired Mr. Darcy's
honor, his ability
to communicate
with the written
word, his honesty
and willingness to
declare his love.
Yes,
he's handsome
too!
Yes,
he's handsome
too!
{I have to admit,
I'm a bit smitten
with him, myself!}
When I was in
seventh grade,
I fell in love
with my first
book to
silver-screen hero.
silver-screen hero.
Deeply, madly
heart pounding
and pulse racinging-ly
enamored.....
....with Rhett Butler
of Gone with the Wind!
Now, if I'd been
acquainted with
Mr. Darcy,
acquainted with
Mr. Darcy,
it might not have
been Rhett....
But at that
time, it most
certainly WAS!
Have you ever
fallen in love
with a literary
character or
one from a
movie? An
actor or singer?
Please,
do tell!
It will be
just
between
us : )
xx Suzanne
xx Suzanne
A million thank yous
from the bottom of
my heart to all of
my heart to all of
you who left such
inspiring and uplifting
messages about my dear
friend, Kathleen.
Her journey
begins today and
your words were
the most special
bon voyage.
begins today and
your words were
the most special
bon voyage.
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47 comments:
Suzanne... how much that teenage heartbreak hurts, but again, it is something we all must experience. You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a Prince. He only very rarely turns up the first or even the second time around!! It took me almost 45 years to find my Mr Darcy!!
Sending love and warm wishes to Kathleen.... and also to Mr. Darcy's girlfriend. :-)
Di
Have a terrific Tuesday!
what a lovely way to tell a lovely story :)
Re: your comment, thank you so much. I did like the lavender baby cupcakes, a little too much actually (I ate eight of them at once!)
Kathleen is in our hearts dearest one! And....this was stunning. Oh Suzanne, you are gifted. And your darling daughter will find her Mr. Darcy if she waits. I did. I waited. I cried. I went on. I stopped looking....then suddenly he was there. I hope she stops looking enough to move on, develop and then POOF! One day....because love never ends.
Have a splendid day, and tell Kathleen we are behind her all the way!!!!! ANITA
Oh boy, my daughter is 14 so heartbreak is sure to be coming her way in the next couple of years. Ugh... if only we could protect them for it, huh? I think we could all use a little Mr. Darcy. Hmmm... falling in love w/ a character? I fell for Leo in Titanic and seeing that I was old enough to be his mother it made me feel like a dirty old lady....ha ha. Hope things go smoothly for your friend today. xo
Oh Suzanne, this post was so sweet! I adore your girl, I'm still waiting for my Mr Darcy.... If I should choose a literary love would definitely be him! And then even Mark Darcy in Bridget Jones.... Let's say, generally, Colin Firth is the man of my dreams... there- I said it!
xx Zaira
Ah, first love. It's both wonderful and tragic. I guess every experience contributes to the adult we become. Her Mr. Darcy will be waiting for her at the right time. Your daughter sounds delightful.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Kathleen today.
I think your daughter is wise. A Mr. Darcy (also my most favorite!) is worth waiting for - he is out there for her!
I do not know Kathleen, but she has been in my thoughts and prayers since you mentioned her here in your blog. We are all holding her close to our hearts, asking God to comfort and guide her through her journey.
Oh so sorry to hear. Heartbreak is so painful. Jane Austen wrote enough about it! I think that't why I always had a crush on Edward Ferrars in Sense and Sensibility.
Great post. I'm praying for Kathleen.
-Rene
Oh it's those years that worry me the most. That pain is so very real. Wise one that you have though choosing Mr. Darcy:)
I had crushes on Tom Cruise and Ralph Macchio. Nothing near as refined as Rhett.
Sending some prayers your way today friend.
Even though there was heartbreak involved, it's always a comfort to notice those first steps of healing...enlightenment of what really matters! Yay for your sweet daughter. And a prayer for your dear friend today. xo ~Lili
Hi Suzanne...and yes, your friend's peace of mind will be in my prayers -
as for Mr.Darcy - it's a bit uncommon for such a find, however, if you look at the character of Elizabeth, you will see why he wanted her...that's the key...her morality and independence beckoned him....i just love that movie...
what a darling post... sorry i hv not been up to date on your friend (i will read on and pray of course) and your sweet daughter... ooohhhh... haven't we all been there.. but she will find her mr darcy.... (i am still waiting for robert redford to find me!) he he... i have a lovely man in my life... God always knows where and when... xoxo
you're meltn' me girl ...
if I wasn't in such a hurry here, I'd write a book.
you're such a good momm-y
Hi Suzanne,
Ahh....first love. That heart will mend and be the stronger for it. It's hard though. Love Mr. Darcy....and along those British lines, I'm always fond of Hugh Grant!
Happy Tuesday...and continued well wishes to Kathleen.
xo Elizabeth
Aww, I'm so sorry for her broken heart! Luckily at that age, they mend fairly quickly.
We are going through a similar situation over here. Only it's not him who has the sad heart, it's me. My little(18) one's heart has been given to another girl. More so than the puppy love he has experienced in the past. My heart is now adjusting to not getting as much attention and time from him as I always have. But I suppose that this too will pass in time.
P.S. Mr. Darcy.... she has wonderful taste! ;)
It is hard to go through the heartbreak with our daughters isn't it? Mine is breaking up with her first boyfriend of 2 1/2yrs. We wish it had ended sooner. He has not been a Mr. Darcy. My youngest daughter's first and only boyfriend only lasted 2 mos. but she learned from it and is now waiting for the right one. Rather than dating many like most of her friends do. I married my Mr. Darcy. He was my second boyfriend in College, but my first love. I didn't date in H.S...I waited till I knew I was old enough to fall in love.
About the movie loves...well I couldn't help but fall in love with Johnny Depp in Chocolat. And James Franco in Tristan and Isolde. And Brad Pitt in Legends Of The Fall.
So sorry to hear about your daughter's heartbreak, being the mom of a now 25 year-old I can attest to a lot of heart breaks along the way. Glad that she has you to talk to.
Hmmm... Always loved Rhett Butler!
I imagine no one has answered Father Tim from Jan Karon's series. I recently read five of the books and I am enthralled with him and the unexpected love story that developes between him and his neighbor Cynthia. He is Episcopalian and can marry. He is smart, fuuny, caring, spiritual, and charming. I cannot wait to finish the series. If you have not read them I highly suggest you do. bighugs♥olive
Heartbreak at 15 - I know it well. What I thought was my first love was when I was 15 and I should have seen it coming well beforehand too. Luckily I found my Mr. Darcy (my hubby) a few months later and I've never looked back. And I soon realized that this is what love really is. And no matter how people try to tell you that time will heal, I guess it does but it's a painful memory that will never leave you no matter how far you try to lock it up in your mind. But your loving support will help get her past the rough spot and strength for next time. xx
Seventh grade, Rhett Butler -- that's when I read GWTW too -- and I didn't take my face out of the book till it was done!
Heartbreak -- it's not easy at any age, but that first one is a killer. And yes, Mr. Darcy -- oh, yes!
My screenthrob -- No one's heard of this guy -- Robin Ellis played Ross Poldark in the PBS series back in the 70s and 80s. Swashbucking and cute as could be. There were photos on the office bulletin board!
A simply stunning post -- gorgeous photos. And thanks, too, for your comments on my Paris post! It was fun to revisit!
She deserves a Mr. Darcy, and she'll get one! My sister-in-law always says that her best conversations with her kids happen in the car, too, I wonder what that's about? Lovely post, Suzanne! XO!
Such a sweet post, Suzanne! Tender young hearts! I can remember early heartbreaks! So nice you can have such great talks!
I really enjoy your inspiring posts. You are a great writer....something I've always wanted to be.
My daughter and I talk a lot in the car also and she'll be a teenager in a few months(gasp). I hope to always be there for her to talk with about such things as this.
Also, a special prayer to your dear friend on her journey. She'll be lucky to have such a great friend to be by her side.
Take care,
Kathleen
special moments with your daughter. they are precious. no matter what the subject matter. she is wise beyond her years. hope her heart is healing well.
as for kathleen. she continues to be in my prayers. you are too sweetie!
Suzanne,
I read your post yesterday, and went away and thought about it off and on, and then came back today. Honestly, I couldn't think of any one specific HEARTTHROB that I got caught up in via daydreams. However I do remember thinking Rhett Butler was so handsome...even though he was somewhat of a scoundrel, like Hans Solo in Star Wars. Remember him saying to Princess Leia, ahhh, but you like scoundrels...or something like that.. We love the sensible and self controlled strength of a man, but we also are drawn to the wild and courageous side of them too,... that faces the beast for the damsel in distress...
Not reckless,...but Brave! Those are the combinations that women look out there and look for...the Mr. Darcy so to speak...
The who finds satisfaction in his one woman, but who feels accomplishment in conquering the "whatevers" he will fight for.
Hugs to you, and I do hope your daughter and my daughter will find their "Mr. Darcy." the one that is perfectly matched for them. Kat and I have seen both the British and the one made for theaters here...Liked them both...
Blessed to have a man who has put up with me for 28+ years...
Have a great day and thanks for another thinking post... :-)
Whatever breaks their heart breaks ours too..
I also have great talks with my kids on drives too...it gets you away from all that distracts and its just you and them :)
As for movie loves I've always loved Micheal Landon in Little House on the Prairie..I loved his tender heart, caring,thoughtful spirit, and that he could wear his heart on his sleeve and not be ashamed of it. And his sacrificial love for his family...I guess Im just in love with love, deep and heartfelt and the freedom that we feel when love is real and true.
Love your post..as always sweet friend
xo Deborah \0/
Your daughter will surely find her Mr. Darcy! She has excellent taste and the best Mom ever. I'm so going to miss that windshield time... it's the best, isn't it?
Suzanne!
As soon as I read this memories came back. Not so much of heartbreak, but of first love.
My son and his 'then' girlfriend had been dating and when I talked with her mother, she said, "Anne has found her Gilbert".
Anne of Green Gables is one of my most favorite movies and she thought of my son as a 'Gilbert'...such a great compliment.
It is so good for your daugther to look for her hero in her life. He will come.
Sweet post.
An Addendem! Anne and her Gilbert were married in May of last year:)
Bless her little heart - those darn year book messages!
I found my Mr. Darcy for real, but then he broke my heart. So now I am thinking I may just end up like Jane Austin did ... alone, writing, continuing to pine for the love of my life.
(I know, that totally sounds pathetic but still.)
* Dear Suzanne~
I just found your blog... it's beautiful and sensitive and so lovingly written... thank you...
I read back to learn about Kathleen, and am sending warmest wishes to her, her family and all her loved ones, like you, who will be there for her. That is love.
Blessings to all,
Linda in AZ *
bellesmom1234@comcast.net
* P.S. SOME of those "young loves" DO turn into "the real thing"~~~ ours did... I had many an infatuation before Jim. Then, we met at 16 & 18, married at 18 & 20, and celebrate 43 incredibly wonderful years on 27 August... it DOES happen, but rarely, and we feel soooooo blessed!!!
Best again,
Linda in AZ *
Oh, what a beautiful post. I am sorry for your daughter's heartbreak but glad she can come to you with her feelings. My mom said the car and the dinner table were the best places to get her information....captive audience I suppose. I almost cry thinking of my baby growing up and being in love some day.....
Aahhh...
I remember those talks in the car.
Sweet and bittersweet memories.
Thank you Suzanne for the reminder.
My answer: Rhett Butler on the printed page-
In films? Brad Pitt riding over the hill on his horse in When the Legends Fall and Harry Connick Jr. at the dance in Hope Floats.
Sigh.
Laura
oh. heartbreak. I read this post and ... I swear I can just "feel" the words. You tell her - she deserves exactly what she wants!
Thank you so much for your comment on my blog~ YES! a re-focus back to age 19... sometimes MUCH needed!!!
Have a pretty night!
Kristin
Ahhhh yes, Mr. Darcy....I love my husband, but I often tell him that some behavior or another isn't very "Darcy-esque". Poor fella, Mr. D is the man by which all men will forevermore be measured! ;-)
Having said that, I do confess to a wicked crush on Capt. Jack Sparrow. Gotta love a man in black eyeliner!
Love ya!
Anne
Thinking of your sweet friend today ....lifting her in my prayers. xoxoxo
Hi Suzanne - your story of your daughter is so touching, hard not to shed a tear. You've done a remarkable job mother, she already has a great foundation for finding the 'right one'. My biggest fear is having my children settle. When it comes to love and commitment, one should never have to settle.
Only wish I could think of a childhood crush..I'm blank..ugh!! If anyone it was likely Cary Grant from watching too many old movies.
Car rides really are the perfect stage for sharing a conversation with a child. We always had our best ones when they knew they couldn't flee! Hugs to you xx
How sweet!!!Thanks for your comment! very nice from you!
i love Mr. Darcy, i've read the book and seen the movie at least a million times......good you are having those talks with her :) have a beautiful weekend!! hugs, susan
Mr Darcy's propsal: "You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you." Yes it is perfect, and I guess we should remember it was written by a woman.
I worry sometimes that my love of romance books has spoiled me for real men. Then I think, nope, hold out for the dream, it happens sometimes.
Kim
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Just found you via another blogger friend Caron, and you got me with the first photo on top of your blog - all the things I love: horses, tea, hedges and dogs....so much richness to take in on this blog that I wills bookmark you and stop back when I have time to read it all, but for now, thanks for the inspirations. Stop by Nest by Tamara at http://nestnestnest.blogspot.com to exchange salutations. Love the music as well. Have a great August. Best, Tamara
Suzanne, your litte sparrow is lucky to have such an understanding mom. Riding in the car is when my son and I would have the best talks. I really miss those. With my daughter it is late at night when she creeps into my bedroom and we chat about it all. She has not dated much either and chooses those whom she does go out with very carefully. Her whole group of friends is the same way, which is so refreshing to me.
My movie loves include: Clint Eastwood in Bridges of Madison County, the Phantom in Phantom of the Opera, Ethan Hawke in Before Sunrise/Before Sunset, and Johnny Depp in Chocolat and Don Juan De Marco.
Happy weekend!
Anne
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